Wedding invitation totally out of the blue

[MyDeftDuck]

Earlier this week we received a wedding invitation from the man next door. He moved in a few years ago, lived alone and we all introduced ourselves, always said 'hi' 'good morning' etc.

Recently he has had a woman staying over, no problem with that whatsoever. But she never, ever speaks; she doesn't respond when we say hello, she looks away if we see each other in the gardens, she blanks us if we are on the street and just this morning I spotted her at the bus stop and was at the point of saying 'thank you for the wedding invitation' but she glared at me and walked off in a strop, (yes, she missed the bus) Why?????

AIBU to not want to go to this wedding if she can't even be civil and engage in conversation? I know she isn't hard of hearing but I do find her rude, dismissive, a bit of a snob and a complete pain in the arse.

What would you do?

Aw if he is lovely and chatty you should go! Just ignore the wife to be

Since you actually got a life you're excused for not going (so that you could report back to us). But I think it just comes down to they not having many friends (as for her I would definitely think so😆) and he really likes you so wanted to invite you.

Go, you know the groom! Who knows, maybe she’s had something terrible happen in her life and is struggling with socialising. One thing i’ve learnt in the last few years is things are not always how they appear. But if you really don’t want to attend, then don’t go. But quite nice of them to invite you. I love a wedding so i’d go for the day part, and probably make my excuses re the evening.

I'd go just because I'm nosey!

Give it a miss, what will it add to your life?
If she does not want want to communicate, fine leave her to it you are not her therapist...move on

Maybe it's a sham
Wedding and she isn't being rude, she doesn't speak English? You have to go out of curiosity!

Are they foreign?

A marriage of convenience to help her or him stay in the country?

Omg I’m glad someone picked up on this… it’s their garden!!! I personally hate sitting in the garden when it’s sunny because I feel awkward making small talk with my very chatty neighbours when I just want to relax. Maybe I’m a snob and a pain in the arse 😂

Ha ha ha. I'd have to go.
Does the bride to be come from a different culture? Is she more friendly when accompanied by her betrothed?

Does she know that you have been invited to her wedding?!

Please follow up and let us know how the wedding went.

I have a hidden nook in my garden where I can sit and no neighbours can see me. It’s bliss!

Now that's interesting. I have a colleague who is rather quiet and awkward, but kind. She also stopped driving young. I wonder if there is some connection

Don't go if you don't fancy it, I suspect she probably doesn't have many friends if she isn't naturally friendly and maybe they just felt that as he says hello, and you live next door, it'd be nice. Maybe she is ND and finds small talk really difficult. It's unlikely she just randomly hates you AND agreed you'd be invited to the wedding. I always think sometimes, you might see it as an occasional hello to the bloke, but it might be that he sees you as lovely neighbours who always make the effort. Or maybe she's angling for an extra gift - either of those reasons!

Ridiculous assumptions about people who don't drive. I don't and a lot of friends don't (the enviroment is cheering us on lol).

None of us are weirdo's, we're very sociable and successful in life.

I don't take my empty bin in, that's DP's job, and I never sit facing my neighbours when I'm in my garden or talk to them! Honestly cannot see what is wrong with either of those things.

As for the not being chatty- some people just aren't. Maybe she suffers with social anxiety, maybe she just hates small talk, either way it's nice you've had an invite but you don't have to go if you don't want to.

It’s a weird situation, but it appears to be common. My aunt always spoke through my uncle when adults were in the room, but was okay-ish with us kids, until we became adults and then we were also snubbed.

We have a neighbour (we all get on generally) who always stopped to chat when they moved in. The wife never responds, ignores everyone. Several times she’s left her car lights on and I’ve run across the road to let her know and her attitude is always acid as if it’s my fault. My husband tried to stop her once when she was leaving her drive with a flat, she virtually drove over him in rally mode!
She limped back eventually and my husband offered to change the wheel and she just ignored him again. A tyre company turned up next day to fix it
I would not go to the wedding myself either