To ask whether you're turning (or have turned) into your mother?

[mumofoneAlonebutokay]

I caught myself today repeating one of my cockney mums sayings to dd

Although we're estranged, I'm definitely turning into mine. Fingers crossed I don't get her early menopause 😩

Edited to add that I was so happy about getting 4 x steaks from lidl today and planning tonight's dinner. My dm would be the same about a bargain 😄😄

Not yet, I’m hoping I can avoid the one-way monologues for another few years at least!

Yes, but I'm happy about that 😀 I say things and do things she does. My DH would prefer it if I was a bit more OCD, like her, too! 🤣

No. We're incredibly, incredibly different so I will be amazed if I do. So different that the lack of any similarity between my life choices and hers is a cause of huge tension, and communication has all but broken down.

Do daughters who are different from their mothers also turn into them eventually, I wonder?

DH says that he made a point of getting to know both my mum and my maternal grandmother, and knew what he was potentially letting himself in for. He’s fine with that, obviously!

My mum is amazing so I would be very happy to be gradually be turning into her. I am probably more like my grandmother, but again, I don’t see that as a bad thing.

That would be my worst nightmare, thank goodness I haven’t.

No. I tried very hard to make sure I wouldn't turn into my mum, and never realised that would mean I'd turn into my dad. 😵😂

Absolutely not. I work very hard to make sure I don't.

No, we’re not much alike. Physically or personality wise. I can recognise a few traits from my father but I’m fundamentally very different to my parents and sister. They all think I’m a bit extra😭

For the record my family are all excellent and decent people. I’m just quite different to them.

God no.

I fact, I tried so hard not to turn into my mum that I accidently turned into my dad instead. 🤣

Yes, much to my chagrin. We're also estranged, hence I dread it. Superficially we look different at least, but lately I see I have the same jowly jawline aaargh.

I feel this way about my family.

If I didn't look so alike to some of them, I would think I'm adopted.

Maybe not all excellent, but they're not "bad" people. We're just so unbelievably different.

That start with "can I just say one thing to you"
I know it's going to be a lecture

I’m turning into my nan.
my son told me he wanted something. I responded with “I want doesn’t get” really surprised me but I can see her point now!

Sadly I’m turning into both of my parents!

I'm only in my early 30s and have 3 kids but I'm the age my DH was when she only had me, her first.

There's deffo some similarities now!!

My DM as well is slowly becoming more like my DGM which is pretty funny as they've never had the best/closest relationship tbh. Whenever my DM is moaning about my DGM I try to remind her she is likely to be the same in the future...

I don’t think so and hopefully it stays that way. I love my Mum but she is astonishingly juvenile and is constantly attention seeking through numerous pointless medical appointments which she then gives me in-depth run downs of while never ever asking a single thing about me. I once asked her if she knew what my job was (it’s a common job that everyone will have heard of and I have been in the field for almost 15 years), and she said she had no idea then spent 30 minutes telling me all about my brothers job instead.

Personality/behaviour wise no - looks yes sadly

I think I'm more like my dad. My mum is the Alan Bennett, "Talking Heads" episode that was never recorded. I phone her every day and yesterday's monologue was quite poignant but funny at the same time. For context, she's 83 and lives in her own flat but it's sort of assisted living:

"I was looking out of the window and there was this little bird. His feathers were being ruffled up by the wind the wrong way. I thought, 'Turn around you daft little sod.' Then he fell off the branch. Dead. I suppose. Birds die all the time, of course. But you never see a dead bird on the ground, do you? That big seagull might have had him. Do birds eat other birds? I regret encouraging the seagulls with bread and lard. Fat downstairs Lyn has given us warnings not to do it because they plop all over the windows.

Which I agree with, even if she never does a hand's turn and sits in the office all day eating Coco Pops. Did I tell you that I went to the little Pakistani boy's shop? It's like an Alladin's Cave in there! I got a three set of knickers for three pounds! Pound each! They've gone down in price since I lost weight through the diverticulitus. He charges more for bigger knickers. Which is fair. More material and all that...

Our Anthony...

When I think back my mother was very admirable, she could be very kind and considerate which is something I can't emulate.

On the other hand she was an almighty snob, that I don't try to be but suspect that in some ways I am 😳

I sincerely hope not. Mine is toxic, unsupportive and has always resented my very existence.

Unfortunately not. Mine was a summer day in human form. I’d be absolutely delighted if I was half the woman she was.

My best friend of 60 years, (so she knew my Mum very well) bought me a coaster that says:
Mirror Mirror on the wall, I am my Mother after all.

Not wrong!

Mine would say 'If you don't do this, I'm gonna have your Guts for garters' and I said it out of nowhere

Growing up, I was similar to my step dad personality wise (thought he was my dad)

I've worked so hard to unlearn everything about the prick and his nonsense ways, turning into DM is a huge surprise 😄

She was quite soft with us, which we needed due to various undiagnosed neurodivergence, and i so get it so do try to the same with dd