My dd is in her mid-20s, she’s been with her boyfriend for 3 years and they are here visiting for a few weeks (live abroad).
We have spent a lot of time with family while they are here, my sister and her husband and my parents have been with us often and extended family too over weekends.
Anyway, my family can be quite reserved, my parents never hug or kiss around us, don’t really hold hands etc. I guess DH and I are less extreme but similar (I don’t hold his hand ever but we do hug/kiss on the check goodbye). On the flip my dd and her partner are quite affectionate with each other. Sometimes if they are passing each other in the kitchen or something they will kiss (peck on the cheek or lips), they always hold hands if out walking together and they will cuddle on the sofa if we are all watching a film and sometimes during the film he will kiss her forehead or similar. In restaurants it seems pretty common for her boyfriend to just rest his hand on her leg if he isn’t eating. I haven’t seen this but apparently when they drive my parents home dd will put her hand on his leg.
Now none of it bothers me, they are just being affectionate but my parents, sister and my mums brother have now all complained to me and said I should ask them to stop as it’s inappropriate and not something adults who have been together for years should do. I’ve suggested that if they really have an issue with it they bring it up themselves but I’m not going to say anything as I think it’s fine.
AIBU to think my family are being weird about it? It’s not excessive and I don’t want to say anything to dd that will make her or her boyfriend feel uncomfortable.