To wonder why women 65+ are all determined that coffee should be mouthscaldingly hot

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My mum, her friends, all the ladies

A normal temp is "cold please bring another one"

Is this an era thing or will it come for me too?

This is my mum! Although she was like it long before she was 65. Everywhere we went, she would ask for hot milk in her coffee.

However, too hot drinks can cause oesophageal cancer so it's better to get used to having them a bit cooler.

MIL (in her late 80s) was here at Christmas and for her second coffee requested that it be hot.

I was a bit confused as it had come fresh from the machine and just had milk added - so a perfectly normal temperature for coffee imo.

I am 72. I have stopped buying coffee in cafes because it is always luke warm - I buy a cold drink instead.

What the heck has age got to do with it? I'm 50 but I've always wanted my hot drinks to be boiling hot. It's a joke in my family that I can drink 2 boiling hot cups of tea faster than my husband gets through his one coffee! Why would you want a lukewarm hot drink? Makes no sense to me!

I’m early 30s and like a very hot tea or coffee. I don’t complain because I consider it rude, but I’m not happy when it comes out not hot and often won’t finish the drink. I think older generations have grown out of the ‘people pleasing’ stage and are happier to say when they’re dissatisfied!

Me too 😊

It may have played a part in your life milestones, but clearly makes cold (ish!) coffee.
That's unforgiveable!! 😄

I have mine in a stainless steel thermal mug. I tend to drink it after about 45 minutes and keep drinking it for about an hour.

2 of my friends (52) have been doing this for years. I avoid coffee places with them because we spend so much time discussing the temperature of their coffees. It’s never hot enough. My Quooker tap at home which produces 100 degree water is also not hot enough for them 🤨

It’s not ghastly Peter Wimsey’s ancestral home in any of the two instances I can remember offhand, though — once it’s in the advertising agency in Murder Must Advertise and the other time it’s actually in a teashop Miss Climpson is using as a lookout post in Strong Poison where she has to run out to follow someone and the waitress says she’ll ’cover up her coffee’ for her. Mind you, in the same novel Harriet has made coffee in a saucepan in her flat and is keeping it warm by her fire while waiting for her visitor…

Tea is supposed to be that hot but you can scald the beans if you pour boiling water on coffee. I always turn of the kettle before its fully boiled so that I can drink mine immediately

Indeed. I am 65+ and I don't drink coffee...

Coffee should be made at 85 degrees.

I think it is possibly because "coffee" back in the day was instant and made with hot milk.

You can get a plate to put underneath the moral to use on electric - there are variations that allow for induction hobs, too.

I'm Team Black Coffee and Make it Hot in the First Place. Not a fan of lukewarm in the first place then being rendered cold by slopping some milk in there.

My dad, 72, insists on scalding, lava hot coffee and sends it back if not hot enough

As for those being scathing about ‘old’ people heating plates, why on earth would you serve hot food onto a cold plate? Not everyone shovels food in super fast. I don’t want meal to be cold after a few minutes!

If you're getting things like lattes or flat whites from a decent coffee shop, they'll make them to about 60 to 65 degrees (some will even use thermometers), as any warmer burns the milk and ruins the flavour and texture of the drink.

No @Ellie56 you must be lying, maybe to yourself? The OP quite clearly stated that all women over 65 drink over-heated coffee. She’s not being agist or sexist in her opening post, just a fact, applies to ALL 65+ women so that has to mean you as well surely?

Us crones are a monolith you see. What one of us likes or says applies to us all. It’s inevitable that we get to this stage in life where we have no independent thoughts.

My mum does this. We went to M&S for a coffee the other day and she said tell them to make my drink extra hot! When I asked the lad on the till to make it extra hot he gave me a strange look. I was wondering whether it was even a thing to ask for it extra hot after the look he gave. 🫢 she still complained it wasn't hot enough 😂

mine does too. always burning hot, madness

Isnt the age at which we can make hot coffee being raised to 67?

I don't think it's a generational issue. Wet lettuces exist in all age groups. Those of us who are not wet lettuces just speak up and say 'the thing you have given me is not the thing I want, please bring me the thing I want'. Especially if they are paying nearly a fiver for it.

If I order a hot drink, I expect a hot drink, not something lukewarm.

I expect it's just because coffee machine coffee is quite a cooler temp than kettle coffee, most people over about 30 will have been used to a boiling coffee.

Since the axing of the WFA, few oldies can afford to boil the water