Fed up of people talking about my brothers relationship

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My brother is 26 and recently got engaged. He lives in Australia, I live in the village we grew up in. I own a small Cafe so I interact with locals all the time.
He got engaged before New Year and every single day since I’ve had people asking about it.
My parents who also work for in the community posted about it on Facebook, they each have hundreds of friends and my mum posted about 20 pictures of them and a video
of the proposal (the couple haven’t even shared this online and my brother said it’s a bit weird she shared it but whatever).
This post adds fuel to it as the conversation can often go “Ohhh I hear little xxxx is engaged, fab news” “oh yeah it’s lovely very happy for him what can I get you” “10 minute rant where they describe how beautiful the proposal was and how she is a truly stunning girl etc etc”
It’s the same in my family, my mum has spoken about nothing since. I’m so fed up of it, like very good he’s engaged and I’m very happy for him but ffs it’s not exactly hard work to buy a ring and get on one knee, we are acting like he carried her up Everest!
It has got to the point where my mum is talking more about the engagement than her own grandchildren.

AIBU to be fed up and pissed off?

Honestly if I was beautiful I would be pissed if that were all people thought about me I mean I have a fucking brain

Gosh what a jealous, miserable person you are. I'd be embarrassed to have written a post like this.

Op, in the nicest way, you sound jealous 😄😄

Yabu, sorry, it's normal

The attention can’t be on you all of the time.

They are happy for him and his fiancé and you should be too.

Being bitter will get you nowhere.

Dreadfully boring? I think you are dreadfully jealous.

Did you tell your mum before he text her? Did she post here about it?

Here
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5242196-to-be-sad-this-is-how-i-found-out-ds-is-engaged?page=14&reply=141017003

I live in the village we grew up in.

That's the key.
People know each other. They remember him growing up.
People getting engaged is a little bit of news that you are going to comment on when you see the family members.
Most people think it's nice.
I'm afraid I agree with everyone else - you sound jealous.
People commenting don't know her presumably so all they can do is comment on the photo / little video.

YABU.

Frankly, you sound petulant and jealous. How sad for your brother that you can't just be pleased for him. I'm sure people will move on and stop asking about it in a little while, in the meantime you'll just have to suck it up and respond pleasantly if you want to keep their custom at your café. You don't want them to realise what a mean-spirited person you are!

People are assuming that you are happy, because it's exciting news for your brother. Most people are happy for their siblings.

If you haven’t been engaged or married then it’s the first in the family. Mind you my DCs got engaged with little fanfare so it’s a bit unusual.

I would be thrilled if my brother got married to a beautiful girl (if she's also kind and intelligent ofcourse :). My two DC are the center of MY world but to others they are just kids. Try to not be jealous, it isn't becoming to you. Also, she's probably using many filters on her social media where everyone is showing off an image not necessarily realistic:)

Seriously, this very post is in your top 10 of mean posts? Wow!

Well that comment really addressed all the previous posters that accused you of jealousy. Don't they look stupid now

I’m with you OP. I have w BIL who I love but is a bloody golden goose as far as my MIL is concerned. Even he is tired of it. I get it. You ANBU

Well us Aussie women do seem to be particularly attractive. Just Kidding. She's probably like every early 20's woman in Australia that I know. Fit , active and tanned ( which is bad - so hopefully fake tan). Well dressed and friendly. That's how I would describe the friends of my three x 20somethings sons , who have heaps of friends who are girls. They are also outgoing and up for any kind of sports game. And I know at least a hundred. Obviously there are all different types of women in Australia,same as everywhere. but a lot of early 20's seem to be very similar. I hope you end up meeting up and having a fabulous time,and becoming great friends. Whether the wedding is in Aus or UK, try to attend. Sadly we all age as I used to be one of those gorgeous young Australian girls. Sigh.

People want to say something nice. They don’t know her as a person so say something positive, which happens to be about her looks. Don’t overthink this. They will move on.

Work on working out why you are not happy instead.

There is a huge difference between sending a private video to your DM and her posting it on FB so all and sundry can see it. The whole town has seen it! That's a gross invasion of privacy IMO.

I think it’s a bit mean-spirited to put sending your milestone moments to your own mother into the performance and attention seeking category. This is a young man who lives on the other side of the world. His mum is never going to experience his milestones in the way she probably hoped she would - she’s never going to get that immediacy of having her son and his partner drop in on one casual Tuesday evening to excitedly announce their engagement / new house / pregnancy and getting to take some photos. Let’s not criticise a son trying to make sure his mum gets to share some of his happiest times.

But how well her brain functions isn't going to be apparent in the video and photos.

Unless of course the photos are CT scan images.

You sound envious of her looks and the fact that she’s engaged and you aren’t.

Get a grip!

It'll be forgotten about in a week.

Just be glad you have customers in January.

If where you live is anything like our village, then this would be Big News. A sure fire conversation starter. Until the next Big News. A local lad. Moved to Australia- no less. Now engaged?!?

A bit like when a goat escaped and ran up and down the main road causing Traffic Chaos. That was all people spoke about in the Co-op for weeks and I do wonder if the other goats wish it had been them that had escaped and got all the attention. 🤔

My previous is a little tongue in cheek- but honestly, OP. It’s January. It’s wet. It’s miserable. Everyone has no money. A little bit of joyous news is just what people would like- it brings some happiness into conversation. If it’s bothering you that much, I promise it’ll be old news soon and everyone will have another event to talk about.