Fed up of people talking about my brothers relationship

[Zallous]

My brother is 26 and recently got engaged. He lives in Australia, I live in the village we grew up in. I own a small Cafe so I interact with locals all the time.
He got engaged before New Year and every single day since I’ve had people asking about it.
My parents who also work for in the community posted about it on Facebook, they each have hundreds of friends and my mum posted about 20 pictures of them and a video
of the proposal (the couple haven’t even shared this online and my brother said it’s a bit weird she shared it but whatever).
This post adds fuel to it as the conversation can often go “Ohhh I hear little xxxx is engaged, fab news” “oh yeah it’s lovely very happy for him what can I get you” “10 minute rant where they describe how beautiful the proposal was and how she is a truly stunning girl etc etc”
It’s the same in my family, my mum has spoken about nothing since. I’m so fed up of it, like very good he’s engaged and I’m very happy for him but ffs it’s not exactly hard work to buy a ring and get on one knee, we are acting like he carried her up Everest!
It has got to the point where my mum is talking more about the engagement than her own grandchildren.

AIBU to be fed up and pissed off?

I think you should consider a different career where you don't have to talk to local people

YANBU, but your DM definitely is. What the hell is wrong with her? You don't put someone else's marriage proposal on your bloody FB! That's a massive invasion of your DB and his DF's privacy. She should take it down.

I can see that it might get a bit boring hearing and saying the same things on repeat, but people are just being kind and excited. They probably assume that you're excited too and want to talk about it!

You might want to think about why this subject is provoking such a strong response from you. Working in a cafe, you must hear all kinds of mundane conversation on repeat - does talking about the weather twenty times a day also evoke the same level of feeling? Of not, why not?

You sound jealous. She's not going to be cooing over this forever, her attention will no doubt be squarely back on your children (where you clearly think it belongs) soon enough. Let your brother have his moment. He's in Australia so him, his fiance and any future children are really not that much of a threat to you and your children, are they?

When i read the title of this thread, i thought you were going to be Prince William....but clearly not.

Its small town life, he's today's news. In a few weeks time, everyone will be over it and will be back to exclaiming over your sandwich of the week and latte specials. You won't be out of the limelight forever, princess.

But he had the proposal filmed and then sent it to his mother so he obviously wasn't all that fussed about a special private moment being just between the two of them, was he? I agree it's a bit cringey her re-posting it, who sends that stuff to their mother in the first place? Why does everything have to be such a performance for attention these days?

Show us the video!

You don't sound at all happy for them to be honest.

Just be happy for him! 🤷‍♀️

So close the café and open one in a city where there's little community and no-one knows you.
Probably less custom and more competition, but your jealousy over everyone chatting about your brother will be resolved.

Seriously you are moaning because to many people are asking after your brother?
What about being pleased you have plenty of customers whatever they are chatting about

Maybe it's just lovely to hear a woman getting a ring before a baby?

Sounds very boring to have to listen to it so much but that is village life.
Your dm is a bit out of order though and over the top with fb.

You don’t like your brother much?

Notice the OP hasn't been back?

Perhaps she's fed up of talking about him 🤣🤣

It has got to the point where my mum is talking more about the engagement than her own grandchildren.

She’s talking about a milestone in the life of her own son. Why would she not want to talk about and feel and express joy and excitement about her son being happy and in a good relationship?

I think it sounds nice and also your village sound quite sweet.

If they were saying things like ‘engaged before you’ or ‘her ring is prettier than yours’ or ‘that proposal was better than you had’ and making comparisons between yours and your brothers life/situation then you would be right to be annoyed. But enthusiastic enquiring people who are just happy for the couple, I really don’t see the issue.

Okay I guess I am being unreasonable.

I think it’s the constant - “gosh she’s a gorgeous girl isn’t she” mixed with the “your parents must be so excited for wedding planning”.

Im not engaged or married, I do have 2 DC and a partner of 14 years though.

Equally when they first started dating it was all about how beautiful she is and now it’s back to that. It seems like the whole village live in shock of her looks which is just dreadfully boring.

Oh so it is jealousy

But I’m sure when you were pregnant, people said nice things then and expressed how exciting it was for your mum - you just didn’t hear it all, because people don’t tend to say things about you to you, they say them to other people, as you are now hearing people say to you about your brother.

If you find it makes you feel jealous hearing that she’s so beautiful then you don’t need to gush along with it, just say “yes, I’m looking forward to the wedding” or “yes, and she seems to make Richard really happy, which is the important thing.”

@Zallous heal.

It’s not your brother fault or his fiancées that your partner hasn’t stepped up despite having children with you.

Im sure if you were engaged it would be comments about you. Though envy is never a good look.

So you're jealous that people think she's beautiful?

You sound very jealous

Whose are the grandchildren? Your children?

Ahhh ok - she’s gorgeous, lives in Australia, and someone wants to marry her.

Jealous.