AIBU to say "JUST EAT THE FU***NG CHEESE THEN!"

[JustSaltPlease]

Slightly dramatic title but honestly, my colleague is grating on me.

She is a vegetarian and every January she takes part in Veganuary.

We receive several photos and updates on what she is making for dinner/lunch etc each day and she talks quite a lot about it. I get it, when people are on diets they act the same I guess.

What is really boiling my piss, is that everything I bring to lunch she comments on.

Today is a cheese salad

"OMG I really miss cheese, I so wish I could eat cheese, this is so triggering" (triggering part is said light heartedly.

Yesterday I had a yoghurt and the conversation goes the same way.

Just eat the fucking cheese, why are you depriving yourself so much, for what? Veganuary? Is it worth it?

I just don't get why people do these things and then bitch about it every day. If you want it, have it. Life is too short!

YANBU
She sounds infuriating! Saying it once is fine but at every lunch time? It would boil my piss aswell!

Even when I was vegetarian ( I now eat fish). I never commented on people eating meat. Their business. I never jumped up and down going "Meat is Murder". Two women I worked with saw an article about how some cheese and wine is not veggie. Obvs I know this. They then grilled me about if I drank wine and ate cheese. One of them knew damn well because we had been out together drinking!!!

I think that's a great response. Introduces her to the idea that her behaviour is rude, but by using the word 'courtesy' avoids actually using the word 'rude'.

OMG I thought this was a follow-on to the thread where the OP was berating her poor DH for eating the cheese before Christmas Day.

As you were....

This😂

She's just making small talk, its just light social chat, and it sounds like she is being quite lighthearted about it. I really don't see why this bothering you.

Lol it's a month...c'mon.

Also as an actually vegan this is even stupider lol.

Also never ceases to amaze me how people can't cope for a single meal without animal products. Even pre-vegan, I'd have just gotten on with it if I had to give up chicken or something for the month! Be creative, there are a ton of recipes out there.

Hahaha

You see, Doris creates controversy.
We have a Doris in work, she is crakers.
Some people find her unbearable but I quite like bumping into her at the canteen. She creates every single time the eyes rolling, the conversations stopping, people shifting unconfortably and she can't even bear the non validation. I just smile and try not to laugh, sometimes can't even help it.
It's all about how you process it.

She's not being rude. She is not in any way attacking or judging OP for what she is eating. She is making a light-hearted and chatty comment about a challenge she has set herself.

There is something strangely ego-centred about being bothered by this. I'm finding comments here really odd.

The colleague is making comments about other people's food every single lunch time though. That is unreasonable and irritating. Commenting on what other people are eating is rude, especially if it's not a one off like "that cake looks delicious did you make it?"
Someone not drinking for a month and constantly wittering about how they really want to go to the pub tonight or going to the pub and moaning about their choice of drink would be equally annoying. Other people really don't care what you eat and drink.

Love the fact that she's "grating" on you.

She's crackers.

No but she is performance virtue flagging! Ooh I'm triggered by your cheese. Look at me being all virtuous and right on. No love! Bore off! Tomorrow I'm having steak tartare.

You can do you by all means but no need to shove your Veganuary on me at all.

Imagine having a follow up thread about something so trivial 😂

It's draining! Having my food picked apart and slobbered over! It has got to the point where I reconsider what I am going to bring in for lunch! And it is only 10th January!!!!

Have a cube of cheese ready and the minute she starts shove it in her mouth before she realises.
Then run.

It's easy @JustSaltPlease , have cheese on toast, quiche, baked potato with cheese, cheese and onion sandwich, cheese and onion pie, picnic eggs, boiled egg etc. If you know what her favourite cheesy dish is, have that.

Bring a cheese board

Macaroni cheese, tartiflette. . .

tartiflette is wonderful. I want tartiflette for dinner now

Just out of interest, how old is your colleague op? Just wondering if the casual ageism of ‘Doris’ is justified here?

No ageism intended re Doris. I've had people in my age bracket called Doris, so I'm afraid that dog won't hunt as far as I'm concerned.

I must admit that Sainsbury’s used to do a vegan cheese that smelled like vomit and an explosive nappy
And there are still vegan cheeses I avoid
But the Vegan Greek cheese I love. It is white but it doesn’t capture the flavour or texture of actual Greek cheese but is like a smooth blue cheese
Also like Cathedral City vegan cheddar

Like the yoghurt, vegan cheese has come far since its early days

Eat your own food love and if you're lusting after mine it's self inflicted.
Let me enjoy my lunch and you enjoy yours is what I'd say.

Most of my non vegan friends and family will happily eat the blocks of Catherdral City plant based stuff. Even FIL who ‘hates anything vegan’ helped himself to a slice not realising it was vegan and went on and had a sandwich of it. I did tell him when I realised he had used the vegan one and he said it was ‘decent’ but looked gutted that he had to say it, After 4 sandwiches he couldn’t very well say he didn’t like it.