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Turned away from breakfast club! AIBU

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Mumsgotaheadache01 · 09/01/2025 19:22

So every 2 weeks I book and pay for blocks of breakfast club for my child. She goes every morning as I work. I turned up as usual at 7.50 this morning and popped her into her school reception and checked her in. Only to be told that she wasn't booked in on the list this morning. I questioned it and the receptionist said that it had been cancelled by payer. I then checked on my parentpay app and it said that my payments were cancelled! So that's obviously why it had removed my child from her bookings. I had certainly not cancelled her chilcare. I have over £50 loaded onto parentpay. So have absolutely no idea why this has happened. I was told that my little one could not come into breakfast club. So I had to sit in the car with a grumpy cold child who had had no breakfast, be late for work and wait for normal school drop off time. Am I being unreasonable to be upset by this . And wonder why parentpay would just cancel my booking like that. And to be really worried and anxious that this might happen again for no reason.

OP posts:
StillAtTheRestaurant · 09/01/2025 20:13

LetsNCagain · 09/01/2025 20:08

No school I've ever worked at has started as late as 8.50.

School starts at 9am around here and I've never heard of one that starts earlier so it clearly varies!

Mumsgotaheadache01 · 09/01/2025 20:13

Noodlehen · 09/01/2025 20:11

I’m not sure that’s funny? A banana and fruit bar is hardly a sufficient breakfast. Especially in this weather.

I planned for them to have breakfast at breakfast club believe it or not. Snacks are also available at 10.30 so I think they'll survive just this one day 🤣

OP posts:
Blondeshavemorefun · 09/01/2025 20:14

LetsNCagain · 09/01/2025 20:08

No school I've ever worked at has started as late as 8.50.

our doors open 840-850

ToKittyornottoKitty · 09/01/2025 20:14

Mumsgotaheadache01 · 09/01/2025 20:13

I planned for them to have breakfast at breakfast club believe it or not. Snacks are also available at 10.30 so I think they'll survive just this one day 🤣

Then why the exaggeration in your OP?

Whinge · 09/01/2025 20:15

Mumsgotaheadache01 · 09/01/2025 20:11

Also it's snowing, and we don't live close enough to the school to get home, eat breakfast and get back to school on time. Also school start is 8.50

You had an hour to find a shop, any shop that has food. But instead you decided to just sat in a cold car, Shock She must have been starving Sad

ToKittyornottoKitty · 09/01/2025 20:16

Whinge · 09/01/2025 20:15

You had an hour to find a shop, any shop that has food. But instead you decided to just sat in a cold car, Shock She must have been starving Sad

She gave her food

Mumsgotaheadache01 · 09/01/2025 20:17

Nowhere did I say I didn't feed them and we sat in the car with heating on obviously. We played ispy and a few games etc. It was quite sweet. Wow

OP posts:
mollymazda · 09/01/2025 20:17

Mumsgotaheadache01 · 09/01/2025 20:13

I planned for them to have breakfast at breakfast club believe it or not. Snacks are also available at 10.30 so I think they'll survive just this one day 🤣

wow... just wow! i can't get my head around your attitude to the situation. your child didn't have breakfast at home because obvs you intended to put them in breakfast club, when this didn't happen, you deemed a banana and a breakfast bar enough and even say 'they'll survivie'.

im assuming you kept the engine running for the entire hour so atleast the kids stayed warm.

mother of the year award... right here

ToKittyornottoKitty · 09/01/2025 20:17

Mumsgotaheadache01 · 09/01/2025 20:17

Nowhere did I say I didn't feed them and we sat in the car with heating on obviously. We played ispy and a few games etc. It was quite sweet. Wow

It was you who implied it in your OP!

TwentyTwentyFive · 09/01/2025 20:18

Mumsgotaheadache01 · 09/01/2025 20:17

Nowhere did I say I didn't feed them and we sat in the car with heating on obviously. We played ispy and a few games etc. It was quite sweet. Wow

Reread your first post that's exactly what you said...

So I had to sit in the car with a grumpy cold child who had had no breakfast

mollymazda · 09/01/2025 20:18

Mumsgotaheadache01 · 09/01/2025 20:17

Nowhere did I say I didn't feed them and we sat in the car with heating on obviously. We played ispy and a few games etc. It was quite sweet. Wow

So I had to sit in the car with a grumpy cold child who had had no breakfast,

Your opening post literally says the above?

Cheersmedears123 · 09/01/2025 20:18

I think that’s a bit shit of school not to take her in or give her some breakfast. We use breakfast club and they wouldn’t have bat an eyelid.

Whinge · 09/01/2025 20:19

Mumsgotaheadache01 · 09/01/2025 20:17

Nowhere did I say I didn't feed them and we sat in the car with heating on obviously. We played ispy and a few games etc. It was quite sweet. Wow

It's definitely implied in your first post

So I had to sit in the car with a grumpy cold child who had had no breakfast

A very different story to she had plenty of food, was happy playing games and the car was running for an hour. Hmm

Sirzy · 09/01/2025 20:19

It’s not ideal but if they were full then they can’t take extra children.

Gymmum82 · 09/01/2025 20:21

I’ve forgotten to book mine in before now and they’ve just accepted them in and told me to pay. I’d be prettt disappointed in a school who refused to take the child due to a glitch with their payment site

UpUpUpU · 09/01/2025 20:22

Completely off topic but my primary school opens the gates at 8:15 for an 8:30 start.

Your poor kid OP.

Trainors · 09/01/2025 20:22

mollymazda · 09/01/2025 20:17

wow... just wow! i can't get my head around your attitude to the situation. your child didn't have breakfast at home because obvs you intended to put them in breakfast club, when this didn't happen, you deemed a banana and a breakfast bar enough and even say 'they'll survivie'.

im assuming you kept the engine running for the entire hour so atleast the kids stayed warm.

mother of the year award... right here

Why are you pearl clutching at banana and a breakfast bar? She literally will survive! And as a one off it’s really not even that bad. What would you have done? Made your child late to school and yourself later to work?

BeLilacSloth · 09/01/2025 20:23

Mumsgotaheadache01 · 09/01/2025 20:17

Nowhere did I say I didn't feed them and we sat in the car with heating on obviously. We played ispy and a few games etc. It was quite sweet. Wow

So you write a scathing review about the School and how you had to sit in a cold car with no food. Now come back with actually it was warm, she can cope without food and you had a lovely time in the car, WTF OP, are you ok?? 🥴

Sirzy · 09/01/2025 20:23

Gymmum82 · 09/01/2025 20:21

I’ve forgotten to book mine in before now and they’ve just accepted them in and told me to pay. I’d be prettt disappointed in a school who refused to take the child due to a glitch with their payment site

I work in an after school club. If we have spaces we will take children when there has been an error and a place hasn’t been booked. If we are at capacity we can’t though.

jhar · 09/01/2025 20:23

I don't get the Argo to the OP.

She's working, juggling things, the app failed. It does it all the time. It's shit.

Scotland here. Mine sits that I owe £64 something. We don't pay for school dinners here.

The club know the people, they know she attends x days, and they have money showing on the system.

The school sent an email here yesterday

Sadly, due to unforeseen circumstances the chicken korma is now chicken tikka, please let us know if that doesn't suit.

Our school would have let them in no issue, or would have phoned the day before and said is everything ok, you usually attend.

DinosaurMunch · 09/01/2025 20:24

I think that's rubbish. Firstly they should have a system that doesn't rely on an app and secondly they should have let her in even if you hadn't paid. Ratios are high for school aged kids and they are allowed to exceed them as a one off.

At ours if you're there every day they would assume you will be there for the half term, and ongoing , unless you tell them otherwise. The payment is separate to booking in. If you use it as a one off you ask them in person or by phone or email if there's space.

Unfortunately it sounds like a computer says no scenario with a staff member no independent thought or initiative. Not much you can do really. Next time double check the payment has gone through

mollymazda · 09/01/2025 20:24

Trainors · 09/01/2025 20:22

Why are you pearl clutching at banana and a breakfast bar? She literally will survive! And as a one off it’s really not even that bad. What would you have done? Made your child late to school and yourself later to work?

er... yes!

TheTruthHurtsDontIt · 09/01/2025 20:25

mollymazda · 09/01/2025 20:17

wow... just wow! i can't get my head around your attitude to the situation. your child didn't have breakfast at home because obvs you intended to put them in breakfast club, when this didn't happen, you deemed a banana and a breakfast bar enough and even say 'they'll survivie'.

im assuming you kept the engine running for the entire hour so atleast the kids stayed warm.

mother of the year award... right here

Oh bore off with your pearl clutching. Fancy calling someone a bad mum for having one bad morning and emergency breakfast. There's nothing wrong with a banana and breakfast bar as a one off, she's not sent her to the Gulag instead of school for fucks sake. This website is fucking ridiculous sometimes.

Mumsgotaheadache01 · 09/01/2025 20:25

It's -3 outside, of course she was cold! Lugging her into school from carpark in snow and back again. We were both cold. Her school isn't in the centre of a town. We wouldn't have made it in time. And yes a banana and a granola bar is plenty for breakfast in an emergency. All of you calling me a bad mother for having to improvise in an unforseen situation. God knows what youd be like in an all out emergency 🤣🤣🤣 I'm going to speak to parentpay tomorrow when I'm on my lunch break. They're saying they can't see an issue my end so it is an error that occurred.

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jhar · 09/01/2025 20:26

And OP doesn't day it was full, just computer says no.

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