Am I being prudish, or do I have a point?

[AmIJustAPrude]

NC for this.

I've just sent the following email to a company I ordered underwear from:

I've just received my order confirmation and was quite shocked by the accompanying image. I don't want to screenshot it to resend, so hopefully you can work out the image I mean: it is of two women/girls lying on their fronts outside wearing black pants.

The woman (I hope) or girl on the left is very thin, which immediately made me assume she was a teenager. One of her breasts is clearly visible.

I'm not prudish about breasts at all, but it made me extremely uncomfortable to receive an image of what appears to be an almost-naked teenage girl. Given you also sell bras, it seems totally unnecessary for her to be completely topless.

I recommend you review the images you send out to your customers, as this has put me off using your company again.

As I say, I don't have an issue with breasts- I've breastfed in public many a time. It was mainly the fact that, based on her body shape, the woman/girl in the photo looks very young (post-pubescent, but pre-adult) and the exposed breast was completely unnecessary.

So what do you think: did I overreact?

you are absolutely untitled to be prudish.

We are also entitled to find that amusing.

What I do object is the thin-shaming from some posters

This DOES look like a mother and daughter to me, but maybe it's the angle.

This whole thread is hilarious, so thank you for that! It'll make me feel better next time I accidentally get riled up about something that I got completely wrong!

Don't speak too soon, we're only eight days in!

Having a mind tuned into safeguarding is a curse at times.

Thank you, this is an excellent point: I think maybe my prudishness is more understandable to those for whom child protection is a huge part of their job.

My inability to tell the difference between an elbow and a breast is... less understandable.

Yes, I think the lack of muscle also played into my thinking she looked young.

Given I thought her elbow was her breast, you can't accuse me of thinking she was flat-chested!

Those images didn't bother me at all, because you can see their faces, and it's clear they're adults. The picture I complained about is also fine WHEN THE FACES HAVEN'T BEEN CROPPED OUT (especially given there isn't a breast in sight!).

In the photo in the email, the woman's face was cropped out (which is a bit creepy anyway, really), so it was an image of a body with no face.

I'm happy to accept I'm a prude, though!

I agree her face looks mature, but that was cropped out of the image I complained about. I'm definitely not worried she's a teenager any more!

See, the three women you've mentioned have toned, muscular arms and legs- I think even without the context of their faces, you couldn't mistake them for teenagers. It's not just that the woman in the photo is slim, it's that she doesn't look like she has much muscle. That's what made me feel she could be young.

I'm glad to hear this, as mine haven't arrived yet, but I don't think I can ever order from them again now! 🙃

Just coming back as I see the image was in your confirmation email. I think I got another image in mine as there is no mistaking elbows for breasts or vice versa in my email, and the models are all older.

I don't mean to brag, but I really have seen quite a lot of boobs!

Or maybe I haven't- maybe women were just showing me their elbows instead!

I've made a right elbow of myself, haven't I?!

My handwriting is SHOCKING on the IWB- I type instead! When I need to demonstrate handwriting, I have a flip chart with paper I use instead!

Ah my dear, don't assume I've missed any point.

Did you miss the irony?

Slim with little defined muscle/ectomorphic is a very normal body type, especially for women their early to mid twenties. It may not be the average in the UK, but they’re not just marketing their products to those in the UK.

I've made a right elbow of myself, haven't I?!

Oh OP you just keep making this thread funnier 😂😂 thank you.

I don't want a picture on a model in my email confirmation. I might open that at work.

So I don't think you are being unreasonable to point out you don't need a picture of pants you've already purchased on someone like this.

Imagine opening it in the office when your screen faces into the room.

😂😂😂

I did think that when I noticed, but to be honest, there are a LOT of women with the same name in their mid-thirties!

You're right though, it's probably sensible- @MNHQ, please can you delete the post where I shared a photo of a perfectly innocent elbow and my first name?!

Not having muscle tone doesn't mean anything. A lot of women in their early twenties don't work out because they don't have to to stay slim.
And certainly if you work in safeguarding you have more common sense that you can't tell a teenager apart from a woman in their early twenties.

Love it OP! I wonder how many sales they've got from this 😆

I've just seen this thread and only read the OP's posts. Cheered me right up 😁

If you are ever accused of inappropriate behaviour by a pupil, the police will check your phone and laptop.

Admittedly they won't care if they find a picture of someone's elbow!

I'm so sorry you're having a tough morning. I'm glad my utter stupidity has brought a smile to your face!

Hopefully they wouldn't, but it's every teacher's worst nightmare to be the target of a malicious accusations from a pupil.

I still didn't want a screenshot of it on my phone when I thought it was a breast!

But that's clearly not true, is it? Because I'm a woman and I'm concerned about it.

Plenty of models are teenagers.