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To be annoyed with sil telling my kids they'll get ill

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cupsoftea · 04/05/2008 09:03

She told my kids they'll get cancer from eating supermarket bread as it has transfats and also from drinking chocolate milk (made from powder if yswim)

She's going to send dh a list of foods to avoid. I don't mind this I just mind her saying things like this at the dinner table in front of my kids - whose gran died of cancer recently.

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belgo · 04/05/2008 09:04

How old are your children?

What an awful thing to tell them.

YANBU.

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cupsoftea · 04/05/2008 09:05

kids are from age 10 to 6 months

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SmugColditz · 04/05/2008 09:09

YOu can safely laugh at her and say "Don't be such an idiot"

In fact I think it's omportant that they see that you believe her ideas to be ridiculous.

And when you have made this clear, grab her by the scruff of the neck, haul her into the kitchen and threaten her with the whisk if she "Ever attempts to disturb their mental health in such a cruel fashion again"

KnickersOnMaHead · 04/05/2008 09:14

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TotalChaos · 04/05/2008 09:17

YANBU. Is she mentally unwell, or just very prone to faddy opinions?

SmugColditz · 04/05/2008 09:21

You could bellow parentally "We do not talk about inappropriately silly subjects while we are eating thank you. That means no Power Rangers, no Bratz, no Easter Bunnies, no 1300cc Motorbikes, and no New Age Food Fads."

This should make it clear to her and the kids that you regard her opinions as som ething she is entitles to hold, but of personal choice and possibly ridiculous to everyone else and certainly to rational adults.

edam · 04/05/2008 09:24

God, that's very cruel. How did your children react? Has it worried them, or have they laughed it off as another example of daft Auntie X?

And is she Gillian McKeith, by any chance?

Trans fats are bad for you, but I don't think they are in bread, actually. SOME pastries, biscuits and bakery products, but not bread. And of course it's not as simple as 'eat trans fats and you'll die of cancer'. Stupid woman.

MrsTittleMouse · 04/05/2008 09:24

She told your children that they would get cancer??? After their Gran had just died?!?!?!?
She is a deranged loon.

edam · 04/05/2008 09:26

Warburtons white bread doesn't contain any {{Wheat Flour, Water, Yeast, Salt, Vegetable Oil, Soya Flour, Emulsifiers E471, E481, Preservative Calcium Propionate (Added To Inhibit Mould Growth), Flour Treatment Agent Ascorbic Acid (Vitamin C) trans fats]]

edam · 04/05/2008 09:28

trans fats are hydrogenated vegetable oil, btw, if you want to check ingredients lists, but unfortunately manufacturers do not have to be clear about it - can label it in such a way it's not obvious.

bringmesunshine · 04/05/2008 09:43

Tell her to naff off and find somebody else to annoy/upset

Tell your children that Auntie Lunatic is finding it hard to cope after Gran died and it is making her say stupid things and we are to laugh at her and not get upset by what she says.

Is she always this 'helpful' ?

Chequers · 04/05/2008 09:55

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cupsoftea · 04/05/2008 09:56

sil has just become an environmental convert - nothing wrong with this as we recycle and make meals from scratch - but she is evengelical.

Somethings did make me laugh but on the whole I found it really selfish of her.

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cupsoftea · 04/05/2008 09:57

(it was my mother not hers that passed away)

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cupsoftea · 04/05/2008 09:58

lol chequers!!

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bringmesunshine · 04/05/2008 10:04

Apologies cupsoftea - I assumed it was SIL's mother who had died.

Give her a wide berth and explain to your children that she is going through an annoying phase and she will emerge soon when shs sees sense.

She does sound truely barking

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cupsoftea · 04/05/2008 10:07

I didn't make it clear bringmesunshine - so my fault

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Chequers · 04/05/2008 10:10

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cupsoftea · 04/05/2008 10:12

thanks chequers

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batters · 04/05/2008 10:20

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MrsTittleMouse · 04/05/2008 10:22

Your Mum has just died and your SIL thinks that this is an appropriate time to raise the subject of cancer with her grandchildren. It just gets worse, doesn't it?

2fedup · 04/05/2008 10:23

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wheresthehamster · 04/05/2008 10:26

Unfortunately this sometimes happens with 'newbies'. They just have to spread the word as quickly as possible and without necessarily being correct, and this usually has the opposite effect to the one they want anyway! (i.e. you just think they're nuts)

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cupsoftea · 04/05/2008 14:28

I wish I had thought of a quick reply to sil - if she says it again I will tell her she's wrong on transfats - plus I'll be sure we only have white sliced supermarket bread & will offer choc milk !!!! (the bread I had before was brown cereal type!)

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KaSo · 04/05/2008 14:37

Tell your kids that SIL isn't very bright and believes the crap she reads in the Daily Mail. Tell them that this is an illness which requires careful handling.... that is... in the future anything she says is to be met with a slow nod, a sympathetic smile and "Yes dear...whatever you say..." then they may freely turn away and piss yourself laughing.