To ask you which other '-isms' you find really grating....

[Sebsaloysius]

Following on in the spirit of the "I could care less" post earlier, what other new age/adopted phrases make your ears burn? Unfortunately, I'm adding to the USA pile on (although they likely could care less) as I'm pretty sure they are responsible for my own pet hate.

When ordering food at a cafe, restaurant, bar or anywhere in fact, when and why did we lose "Can I have" or "I'd like to order" to "Can I get"??

Only the other week did I overhear an elderly, well-spoken lady in a deli queue drawl "Can I get a pear and Shropshire Blue sourdough loaf". I wanted to tell her that she had no right to that beautifully crafted, quintessentially British artesan bread by asking for it in such a manner, and push her out of the door to reinforce the point (I didn't, before the MN police come at me).

I also find "sorry not sorry" vile. Not only are you 'not sorry', you're now also a dismissive cockwomble, so I like you even less than I did 5 seconds ago.

What are yours?

OP, please just look up the various meanings of the verb ‘to get’. All will become much clearer I promise 😉

Hint:
If you get a delivery, you receive it. You’re not expected to go wandering around looking for it.

It’s in this sense of ‘receive’ the verb ‘get’ is used in shops and cafes etc. I’ve never met anyone who had a problem with the expression, or mixed it up with a desire to climb over the counter at Costa to serve oneself, but maybe it’s regional because the number of times this comes up on MN is staggering. People move about more now I suppose, and others just aren’t used to the phrase.
It’s all quite strange though. ‘To get’ isn’t exactly a niche verb and surely people use it in the sense ‘to receive’ all the time.

Grab is the one that winds me up. Grabbed a sandwich, grabbed an Uber, grab a drink later….stop grabbing, it’s rude!

I'm not sure I'm justified/correct in my irritation, as apparently it's not a new thing at all but the recent series in The Guardian had me gritting my teeth - "How I beat overwhelm" Using the word overwhelm as a noun just sounds awful to me. "How I beat feeling overwhelmed" or even "How I beat overload" are to my ear preferable.

The versatility of the verb "to get" led to my English teacher scoring out any version of the verb to get in our work. We received a lecture on day one telling us it is a lazy word and we needed to spend time thinking about what we actually meant and to use the appropriate word instead.

To this day, I tend to avoid "to get" in any vaguely formal or official communications.

She was an excellent teacher.

With regards to.

In regards to.

Just stop writing this. You don't need the 's' on the end. You're not sending greetings - you're referencing something.

Boxing Day when it should be Stephens's Day. 🤣

I wanted to tell her that she had no right to that beautifully crafted, quintessentially British artesan bread by asking for it in such a manner,

I think this is more annoying than all the other pedantries on the thread, OP.

Why would you even think that you should say something? Is this supposed to be funny? It’s so entitled and superior.

And you spelt artisan wrong. I never correct spelling but I made an exception for you.

Ah now!
The verb ‘to get’ is usually described as extremely versatile, not as lazy.

Obviously, using the same verb in every second or third sentence is monotonous, so your teacher may have a had a point if that’s the sort of thing her students were doing.
She is to be commended for trying to widen her pupils’ vocabulary, but that doesn’t mean every use of ‘get’ is intrinsically bad or lazy!

It annoys me how many people say 'a hundred percent' as the new 'totally'. Just say 'yes' FFS!

Don’t move to Donegal so - ‘that’s hundred per cent’ is a phrase that’s been used to denote agreement for decades 😂

"to unalive" is a way to get around YouTube censorship. The K word and similar get videos demonetised.

People not knowing how to describe the act of lying down. “I was led down on the bed.” ARGH

Exactly. These "can I get" haters should educate themselves by looking up the dictionary definition of "get." One of its meanings is "receive."

Also honoring the can/may distinction is excruciatingly correct, but it is fast disappearing from the English language. I will not mourn it.

Presumably you haven't looked up the vicious circle/cycle thing? Wikipedia lists Vicious circle, with cycle in brackets as an alternative.

And the "needs fed" thing is Scottish. I first came across that on Homes Under The Hammer with the Scottish presenter saying that things needed done. No point arguing that.

The words gift and gifting make me irrationally angry for some weird reason.

Ha ha I think we listened to the same book , my lead character keeps "wondering around in the dark night "
Also the book is based in the USA so of course the night is dark

Agree with all of these apart from plate up, gosh if your teens are offering help in the kitchen I’d take that!

To quote an old black and white film.
'Mother died Sylvia..she didn't pass over pass under or pass out..she died.'

I’m not a fan of ‘different than’ - I think it should be ‘different from’. But I imagine it’s location specific.

On the other hand, a word that I think needs wider exposure is ‘outwith’. Excellent word: should be available everywhere.

The comment ' Rude much'...
As seen on mumsnet

Another influencer one; colourway.

“This piece comes in 5 colour ways”. No. It comes in 5 different colours.

I hate ‘investment piece’. Just buy stuff you like to wear.

Yep. Hate this too.

God yes, forgot this one! Also, price point. 🙄

Yes! Hate this.

Also, people with slow cookers always seem to ‘chuck’ things in them.