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To ask you which other '-isms' you find really grating....

295 replies

Sebsaloysius · 06/01/2025 19:20

Following on in the spirit of the "I could care less" post earlier, what other new age/adopted phrases make your ears burn? Unfortunately, I'm adding to the USA pile on (although they likely could care less) as I'm pretty sure they are responsible for my own pet hate.

When ordering food at a cafe, restaurant, bar or anywhere in fact, when and why did we lose "Can I have" or "I'd like to order" to "Can I get"??

Only the other week did I overhear an elderly, well-spoken lady in a deli queue drawl "Can I get a pear and Shropshire Blue sourdough loaf". I wanted to tell her that she had no right to that beautifully crafted, quintessentially British artesan bread by asking for it in such a manner, and push her out of the door to reinforce the point (I didn't, before the MN police come at me).

I also find "sorry not sorry" vile. Not only are you 'not sorry', you're now also a dismissive cockwomble, so I like you even less than I did 5 seconds ago.

What are yours?

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Squadrona · 06/01/2025 20:59

OchonAgusOchonOh · 06/01/2025 20:10

Ugh yes. First time I heard it I hadn't a clue what it meant and had to ask.

‘Passed’ is for kidney stones.

I’m absolutely fine with variant varieties of English, but I do find something I only see on Mn (which I don’t think is a matter of dialect) irrationally annoying — people using ‘floor’ for ‘ground’. If you are out on the street and drop an icecream, it doesn’t fall on the ‘floor’.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 06/01/2025 21:00

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I like "of an evening". It's got a very relaxed feel to it.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 06/01/2025 21:01

Staycation. Any travel agent, resort or hotel that uses this will immediately lose my business

tpmumtobe · 06/01/2025 21:01

In a work context, it drives me nuts whenever people say they can "talk to that" or "speak to that" usually in reference to a tediously boring powerpoint slide.

You can talk about it, or explain it, yes, but why in god's name would you "speak to it"?!

Hello Mr Powerpoint slide, how are you today?!
Oh I'm really boring, thanks for asking...

AnnaL94 · 06/01/2025 21:02

When people say “I have mental health” when really they mean to say “I have poor mental health” or “I have a mental health condition”.

Fleetheart · 06/01/2025 21:03

tpmumtobe · 06/01/2025 21:01

In a work context, it drives me nuts whenever people say they can "talk to that" or "speak to that" usually in reference to a tediously boring powerpoint slide.

You can talk about it, or explain it, yes, but why in god's name would you "speak to it"?!

Hello Mr Powerpoint slide, how are you today?!
Oh I'm really boring, thanks for asking...

Same here; I really don’t get it!!

Squadrona · 06/01/2025 21:04

OchonAgusOchonOh · 06/01/2025 20:59

I also seem to be the only person left I I my world who understands when to say "x and I" and "x and me" where x is another person.

My dc also know as I have it beaten in to them.

My 12 year old has also had this engraved on his little heart.

Zippidydoodah · 06/01/2025 21:04

AnnaL94 · 06/01/2025 21:02

When people say “I have mental health” when really they mean to say “I have poor mental health” or “I have a mental health condition”.

Yes, this really annoys me too! It makes me think that people don’t really understand the concept of mental health. We all “have” mental health, just some people’s mental health is good and unproblematic, and other people’s isn’t.

InterloperMum · 06/01/2025 21:05

It annoys me when commentators, academics, etc, use the phrase "speaks to" instead of "communicates" "portrays" or even "speaks of".

PriOn1 · 06/01/2025 21:07

My mother typing “Enjoy!” when I’ve texted her about something I’m about to do. I think it came from my sister, but it drives me mad. What happened to “Hope you enjoy it,” or “Hope you have a good time!” I understand those take longer to type, but honestly, I’d rather she said nothing as it sounds so false/smug to me.

AtlasPine · 06/01/2025 21:07

‘It is what it is’.

I loathe that phrase. Like you can’t change anything, ever. It’s all set in stone for the rest of time. Can’t be questioned or critiqued because ‘it is what it is.’

I agree - ‘Go shop, go toilet’. Erg.

’I go it’s ok to do that but… blah blah.) You don’t GO, you think, or say, or debate, or argue, or feel…

Chroniclesofstress · 06/01/2025 21:11

When people say: ‘At the minute..’. I don’t know why it winds me up so much, but I can’t stand it.

Nugg · 06/01/2025 21:12

It's giving

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 06/01/2025 21:13

As a child I was taught not to 'grab' but now everyone is encouraged to grab everything...

Whether it is a coffee, a sandwich, a 'deal', a plane seat, a holiday, a job (GrabJobs)😡

TheFifthTellytubby · 06/01/2025 21:16

I sometimes find myself wondering at what point in the last decade the phrase "to be like" became synonymous with the verb "to say"...🙄

OchonAgusOchonOh · 06/01/2025 21:16

AnnaL94 · 06/01/2025 21:02

When people say “I have mental health” when really they mean to say “I have poor mental health” or “I have a mental health condition”.

Or "I have blood pressure".

Yes I know. If you didn't we wouldn't be talking to one another as you would be dead.

Zae134 · 06/01/2025 21:16

I don't like 'you take me as you find me' because the person saying it usually thinks they're very down to earth or very real. Actually this person is often very rude and inconsiderate but they've now got a get out clause.
Equally 'you either love me or hate me'. Fabulous- I probably hate you.

Zae134 · 06/01/2025 21:17

AnnaL94 · 06/01/2025 21:02

When people say “I have mental health” when really they mean to say “I have poor mental health” or “I have a mental health condition”.

Yes! Or 'I'm a little bit OCD'

OchonAgusOchonOh · 06/01/2025 21:18

Squadrona · 06/01/2025 21:04

My 12 year old has also had this engraved on his little heart.

Good on you. We will resist until the end. It is a hill I'm willing to die on.

The use of insure instead of ensure also annoys me immensely.

unlikelywitch · 06/01/2025 21:19

Referring to an item of clothing as a ‘piece’.

I know ‘needs done/fed/washed’ is loathed on Mumsnet but it’s a very natural way to speak where I’m from. ‘Needs doing’ isn’t grammatically correct either but it’s never met with the same ire.

newrubylane · 06/01/2025 21:20

All the yourself-ing. They're especially bad for this on Traitors - 'I'm voting for yourself, John' or whatever. What's wrong with 'you'? I've no idea if it's American or not, but either way it's annoying.

JudgeJ · 06/01/2025 21:20

Gotback · 06/01/2025 19:26

Meet with.

You have a meeting with someone or you meet someone. You do not meet with someone. I'll leave it there to prevent loss of temper.

When did we start to 'fill out' a form rather than 'fill in', ie put information into the form.
People cooking 'source' an ingredient, sorry love, I go to Sainsbury's or wherever.
'Curate' seems to have taken on a new meaning.

DuchessOfPort · 06/01/2025 21:20

“Off of” instead of “off”.

I took that book off of the shelf. Makes me want to shout.

I know it’s an Americanism but stoppit.

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 06/01/2025 21:22

OkPedro · 06/01/2025 19:35

Are you trying to be funny op ?

There are two similar threads going at the moment.

FYI "can I get" is used in Ireland by every Irish person I've met. It's always followed with a please of course.
It's not an "Americanism" it is actually old English

Also used in Scotland. Not an Americanism.

Sunbeam18 · 06/01/2025 21:23

Markies is used in Ayrshire and Edinburgh!