To think this is rude and weird re a Christmas present

[bagpuss90]

I muddled up a friends present with another friends present . Genuine mistake and I apologised. Anyway I sorted it .One of the friends thought it was really funny. I took the other friend her “proper gift” last night and she was really shitty and weird. She said “don’t you ever do this to me again” WTF ?. Asked me if her gift actually ever existed before Christmas. Not even a thank you . AIBU to think this was rude and weird and a total over reaction ?

Yep. No presents and no friendship either!

With 2 items like that I would have just left it as "wrong," if it had been something personalised or one was pregnant that would have been different.

She said “don’t you ever do this to me again”

In my head I said this in a Mandy from This Country voice.

Nutter

It's probably time to 'unfriend' her. Life's too short.

She was probably joking.

You're probably right. God I keep falling for it lately! Must be because I'm under the weather.

I would not be friends with anyone who spoke to me using the words "don't you ever" under any circumstances.

It's condescending and mildly threatening

Aah I see now.

Sigh. I have clearly lost my MN bullshitting chip!

I'd get her nothing next year then play daft "You told me you didn't want me to, I can never get it right can I"

Vodka and Prosecco? So what? Weird response.

How boring. I thought this was going to be something entertaining like the ancient joke about knickers and gloves. 😀

Buy her a grip next year. She clearly needs to get one.

I think it was this too.

It sounds like she's annoyed that you gave her a present (that she may well have opened or regifted) and subsequently asked for it back.

Although to be fair, that's presumably something you choose to do, as you enjoy it?

But she was rude

What did you say in response to the don’t do that to me again comment?

I’d have said, don’t worry, I don’t think we’ll be friends for long now anyway!

I really would struggle to stay friends with anyone who spoke to me like that over half a bottle of bloody vodka !

Or possibly that she’d already opened and drunk it and was annoyed at being asked for it back. Although still a huge overreaction to something that cost a tenner.

I suspect that's the problem. She opened the first gift and liked it, opened it or regifted it to someone else. Then the OP asked her to give the gift back. That's what upset her, especially if she had to go out and repurchase the item so she could return it to the OP.

Just being gifted the wrong sort of alcohol doesn't seem like too much of a faux pas. Giving a female friend a beard trimmer when they were really supposed to get a nice mascara - and vice versa for a male friend - could cause some chagrin, but this is baffling!

To be honest I think the entire exchange was weird. I would never ask for a gift back from a recipient, to give to someone else. Didn’t you feel embarrassed doing that? Especially when you mention it was only cheap alcohol. You then awkwardly gave original recipient another gift later. It really wouldn’t have been a big deal for you to have kept the wrong gifts as they were and you would have saved the ill-feeling.