To think this is strange from my neighbour?

[Pekitothebunny]

This morning I woke up to a pack of Christmas cards that have been posted through my door. They are new Christmas cards, still sealed within their pack, unused. A note came with it saying “hi, it’s Janet from number 5. I bought these for you to send out to the neighbours next year”

Huh? Why would anyone do that? She’s isn’t my direct neighbour, she’s like 4 houses down. We don’t speak or have any kind of relationship. However, since we moved in a few years ago she has always sent us a Christmas card, and I assume she sends them to everyone on the street. We don’t bother with Christmas cards and never send them out. Could it be that she’s offended that we never send cards so this is her not so subtle way of hinting that she will be expecting a card from us in 2025?? Why would anyone care so much?

Im planning on just throwing the cards away and ignoring it. Would anyone else find this weird?

This. And add something about Cards not being eco-friendly.

The OP has a snotty attitude ? Have you actually read the thread ? The neighbour is trying to shame OP into doing something she doesn’t want to do and is totally unnecessary. That’s what I would call a snotty attitude.

The remark about charity shop christmas card is snotty and unpleasant.

The neighbour is just a small-minded nutter.

Hilarious! I think I’d have to play the long game and send one back every year or every other year. It’s just such a bizarre thing to do.

What a hypocrite! Did she knock on your door when she posted them?!

She needs to be called out.

Or that you just send cards to friends and loved ones.

I was going to suggest writing & posting them all now, with 'Merry Christmas 2025', 'Merry Christmas 2026' etc on them. Problem solved for the next 5, 8 or 10 years, depending on how many cards were in the pack.

Hardly. They aren't friends. They don't even know each other. The card is addressed to No 11 so it's not as though the neighbour's Christmas will be ruined if they don't receive a card from No 13 or whichever number OP lives at.

No, the comment is factual. They are cheap cards from a charity shop - thus confirming that the neighbour hasn’t spent a lot of money on them. Don’t see a problem.

If you don't see a problem, that's your view. I think it's a snotty remark. Charity shop Christmas cards are intended to raise money for good causes and are appropriately priced so most people who wanted to buy them to support the charity, could afford to. They are not meant to give the appearance that you are someone who buys expensive cards - the intention is to raise money for the cause (whatever it is).

Why do you care so much what someone thinks about charity cards ? 🤣

Agreed. I judge people who choose to send cards that do NOT support a charity.

Most of them definitely lie about that.

It’s very strange but I think I would ignore as I don’t know her motives, she may be batshit,
I would keep them though in case she quizzes you on them later in the year or if they come up in conversation, in that case you can say you don’t sent Christmas cards ( input reasons) and say you will return them to her

So funny OP, batshit and PA in equal measure.
I love @tilypu suggestion😂

I hope that judgments spreads towards other things too then, do you buy everything you own from shops that support charitys?

I hope with that judgement you arnt buying brand new clothes, pots pans ect, towels ect and are getting everything from shops that support charities

I’d be equally passive aggressive and post them back with a note saying we don’t celebrate Christmas. I’m also a non card sender.

I know. I volunteer in one. I didn’t specify the time of year when the op should donate😊

Post them back with ‘Dear Janet. These are far better off gifted to someone who sends Christmas cards, which isn’t us. Wishing you happy and healthy 2025.’

I'd find that so funny. What an absolute dick.
I'd be really temped to buy her one of those absolutely massive padded naff ones next year with a gushing sentiment written inside.

Put them back thru her door. No note.
just give them back, thru the door.

Stick them back through her door with a note on - 'not required'.
Job done! No excuse, explanation, or enquiry about her odd behaviour.

Knock on, smile, say thank you for the kind gesture, give them back, say you don't send cards as it's against your beliefs (she presumably doesn't have a clue whether you're Christian, a Jehovah's Witness, an Atheist, Jewish, Muslim etc.).

I do have an ethical shopping policy, yes.
Not all charities but BCorps, 2nd hand where possible, sustainable, avoid from oppressive regimes, local etc.
No idea why people get touchy about cards though!

This.

I do send lots of cards but the neighbour is ridiculous.