So I have a childhood friend I have known for over 30 years, grew up in same town, both married and moved out in 20's. I moved back to home town several years later and BF lives 3.5 hours away. We rarely see each other in person as life, children and personal commitments get in way but we do regularly keep in touch over phone/whatsapp etc - mainly initiated by me.
BF comes to home town to see family regularly but again don't often arrange to meet as Bf has large family and always busy with things to do with them, may fly by to mine in evening or random hour to see me.
in recent years this is happening less and less and although I'm always up for planning/booking in future/coming to her to meet she always declines says can't plan that far ahead/pr some other excuse that we will meet in a few weeks but never happens. However on occasions she will always send me expensive gifts to mark the occasion and will promise a spa date/over night trip but these never happen - I'm always up for booking these events in but it's always down to her availability which is scarce.
I have come to the conclusion that I feel I am always chasing and asking to meet so I have stopped.
BF will come to home town and sometimes not even tell me and go home without seeing me. (I live 10 mins away). Currently BF is in home town and has reached out to meet today, I said I was busy what about Thursday? We confirmed and she has just canx without explanation and has said she going back on Friday having been down for 2 weeks but not even made the time to see me, said best friend.
what hurts is a few weeks ago she was talking about a different function and said that at this age we make the effort for people we want to see and won't for those not as important and it's as simple as that and I think that made me revalue our friendship and wonder if we are in fact best friends anymore, even though no one really uses that term.
AIBU to think she would make the time if she cared or valued me enough?