Oh to have the confidence of an average male

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Errors · 01/01/2025 19:11

This is one of my favourite sayings now. Did I get it right? I think I read it for the first time on here.

Anyway, what is it about getting slightly older (40s) and all of a sudden SEEING this everywhere?

I went on a date the other day with a guy who still
lives at home with his Dad and siblings (he is my age) which normally wouldn’t be off putting in of itself (it was circumstantial) but he was so unbelievably full of himself. Kept talking about women in the office throwing themselves at him, text me after to say I was too ‘cold’ and not flirty enough and so he decided to ‘match my vibe’ and almost made out like I was really missing out on someone great by not wanting to see him again.

Tell me some of your hilarious stories about men acting this way please.
Why the hell do most decidedly average (and below average) men think they’re god’s gift?

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FestiveFruitloop · 02/01/2025 13:24

Demodog · 02/01/2025 12:56

@Thepeopleversuswork I was in a meeting years ago, when I was one of two women there - the other was our MD. I was junior but not the most junior in the room. It was a big meeting so there was a catering assistant tasked with getting the teas and coffees sorted.

One swinging dick exec strolled in and asked for a coffee and told the catering assistant no to bother as Demodog would get it. I politely told him that there was a catering assistant sorting drinks today. He replied that it was a shame I was making such a fuss about getting a senior manager a coffee.

At this point our MD spoke up and asked dickhead exec why he thought it was more appropriate to ask me to get him a drink, instead of the catering assistant. At which point there was an awkward silence. She didn't let it go, and got a muttered load of crap about not having realised that the catering assistant was actually the catering assistant (despite him wearing a literal uniform!).

Two lessons that day. Firstly that sexist arseholes will find every way possible to try and put you in the place they think you belong, and reinforce their view of your purpose and abilities. Secondly it was an absolute eye opener hearing the men speak about her afterwards, blaming her for being a bitch and a ball breaker. And I got some pushback for having shown him up and made it awkward and I should have just got him the coffee to "show respect". Absolutely dismal.

Good grief, that is jaw-dropping. At first I was wondering why he'd do that, then the penny dropped when you said the catering assistant was male. What a sexist twerp, but your MD sounds great!

Shitgift · 02/01/2025 13:41

SerenityNowSerenityNow · 02/01/2025 09:31

I have this slogan on a T shirt ....my DH bought it me for Christmas.

This is rife in academia and some of these mediocre men have made my life quite challenging at times. DH bought me the t shirt as I'm starting new job this year where I will be line managing some challenging mediocre male colleagues.

😅 are you tempted to wear it on your first day of work to make a statement?

InALonelyCattleShed · 02/01/2025 13:51

The flip side of these huge egos is that they are usually incredibly brittle and take great umbrage when people show a bit of backbone, even in the most innocuous ways.

It was ever thus. If they had any strength about them they wouldn't feel the need to behave the way they do. In their arrogance they show their inner weakness.

OurNHSangels · 02/01/2025 13:55

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