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Anyone else thinking....here comes the new year, same as the old year?

52 replies

PyongyangKipperbang · 31/12/2024 23:08

Would be nice to know that I am not the only one feeling down and, frankly speaking just for me, utterly defeated.

No need to share why, but knowing I am not the only one would help.

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MistressoftheDarkSide · 31/12/2024 23:14

Solidarity x

Lots of my friends and I feel much like this - as though we're going through the motions because it's expected, but we've had a battering by life and are exhausted.

My motto is survival out of spite these days x

Hang in there, you're definitely not alone.and have a virtual hug if you want one. And if you don't I understand x

unsync · 31/12/2024 23:14

I don't get the hype really. It is what you make it isn't it? I think a lot of people just set themselves up for disappointment. I'm sorry you are feeling defeated. Are you able to do anything about that?

KateMiskin · 31/12/2024 23:17

Yes. I think its too late to fix all the crap in my life at the moment. I always find NYE hard.

nyefedup · 31/12/2024 23:17

I feel shitty too OP (hence the username!). A few different reasons, but definitely not feeling myself at all. Hope you feel better soon and that 2025 is kind to you Flowers

GrapefruitFrog · 31/12/2024 23:19

I feel totally knackered and flat, too. When you think it’s about to be the five year anniversary of the pandemic too, it is mind blowing and much of those years feel like a bit of a blur. I don’t feel like any of us have fully processed it or settled into life again.

Beautifulweeds · 31/12/2024 23:20

Yep! Have been abroad and other places in UK and all big build up then just...deflation, even when young, crash out at a party then wake up and it's oh a new year.

Best thing is to feel grateful for what we have, the loved ones we have with us going forward.

Otherwise it's just the month after so much hype and celebrations amd being skint.

New year? Every day is a new day, no appt needed to start the very first day. Xx

KateMiskin · 31/12/2024 23:22

I would really like a do over at life. I have such clear 20/20 hindsight.
Oh also DH is snoring, and I want to kick him.

MferMonsterSearchingForRedemption · 31/12/2024 23:22

This year has been shit, well the last few months especially. Nothing is going to change just because it is 2025, and the hardships in my life right now are things that are out of my control.

I know that 2025 is going to be a hard year (at least the first half), it can't not be, but I am trying to accept that whilst also trying not to forget that there are also things to look forward to and enjoy.

Cherrypickled · 31/12/2024 23:23

Same shit,different year.

CheeseDreamz · 31/12/2024 23:26

It's a rubbish time of year to think about new beginnings and more celebrations - Christmas is quite enough thank you! I much prefer Persian New Year (Nowroz) in March, when the new buds and flowers are starting to come up. We have grey, damp, cold months ahead in UK and have to hold on for a fair bit till the days are longer and brighter. This isn't really ever the start of anything - just a case of keeping on keeping on, tax deadlines and flu. And relentless bloody fireworks this evening. Bah.

the80sweregreat · 31/12/2024 23:31

It's just hype.
It'll be another new year of paying more for less , higher bills and worrying that if you need the NhS it'll be a lottery if you can get the right help.
Have to soldier on though

BettyBardMacDonald · 31/12/2024 23:32

My expectations are low. I never get that butterflies feeling any more.

Moonwalkies · 31/12/2024 23:34

GrapefruitFrog · 31/12/2024 23:19

I feel totally knackered and flat, too. When you think it’s about to be the five year anniversary of the pandemic too, it is mind blowing and much of those years feel like a bit of a blur. I don’t feel like any of us have fully processed it or settled into life again.

It's wild that covid was 5 years ago- half a decade! Time since has seemed really warped.

I have never been fussed by NYE so never get overly sad about it.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 31/12/2024 23:35

Same here.

I feel so flat.

I’m only still up because I need to collect ds2 later and hope he’s not too inebriated.

Solidarity ladies. Here’s to some brighter and lighter times ahead xx

Judellie · 31/12/2024 23:36

It's got to be better than 2024 - tho setting the bar quite low there as 2024 has been awful. Not just for me tho, for just about everyone I know. Maybe we should all just sleep through Leap Years (look what happened in 2020!).
And I detest January, New Year and hope is for springtime, not the depths of winter!
It would help if January was one of the 'free' council tax months rather than February and March too.
Persian New year time sounds much better

Theunamedcat · 31/12/2024 23:39

Well ive tried my best this year the house is clean the kids are happy playing thats the best I can hope for right now

KateMiskin · 31/12/2024 23:39

I have actually bought a gratitude journal for the first time. I hate those things normally!

niadainud · 31/12/2024 23:42

Oh totally expecting 2025 to be every bit as shit as 2024. I really can't be bothered to even try any more.

Cherrypickled · 31/12/2024 23:45

niadainud · 31/12/2024 23:42

Oh totally expecting 2025 to be every bit as shit as 2024. I really can't be bothered to even try any more.

Same. I'm usually an optimistic type. But fuck it I cba anymore.

Totallybannanas · 31/12/2024 23:46

Same, a load of hype. I'm not even feeling like it's new year's to be honest. This year will be about trying to survive and keep food on the table and a roof over our heads. My anxiety also kicks in about who we will lose this year 😕.

Totallybannanas · 31/12/2024 23:46

On another note, I also hate new years because I can't stand Jools Holland 😡

KateMiskin · 31/12/2024 23:48

I have actually been trying to keep it together for the last 5 years and now I just feel like collapsing. Its like all the adrenalin has left my system.

RaininSummer · 31/12/2024 23:48

Nothing will ever change just because the calendar moves onto a new date though will it? For things to change you have to actively make those changes which obviously isn't always easy or possible. I guess a new year is just symbolic and can present an opportunity to consider making changes. I am sorry so many people seem unhappy and hope some of you can improve things.

SoWhat21 · 31/12/2024 23:49

My mother was diagnosed with Stage 3 ovarian cancer just before Christmas. New Year same as the old year is the best I can hope for.

AltitudeCheck · 31/12/2024 23:52

This made me smile today...

Anyone else thinking....here comes the new year, same as the old year?