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To hate New Year's Eve

81 replies

Butteredtoast55 · 31/12/2024 19:46

Just that really. Over the years I've tried to enjoy it in all forms from full on partying to having close friends round; snuggling in front of the TV to going to bed early; going to see a film to having a bubbly bath and all points in between.
I just find it so pointless and feel honour bound to 'see in' the new year with DH and DC who are all here at home. It doesn't exactly feel depressing but the forcedness and expectation wear me out.

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PoorUncleBarry · 31/12/2024 22:55

I poisoned myself with 5 Toffifee so I'm in bed farting (lactose intolerance) and I suspect, annoying the cat. Happy new year and all that ...

greengreyblue · 31/12/2024 22:56

PoorUncleBarry · 31/12/2024 22:55

I poisoned myself with 5 Toffifee so I'm in bed farting (lactose intolerance) and I suspect, annoying the cat. Happy new year and all that ...

Oh dear! Well you can blame the fireworks I guess! 😂

BurntBroccoli · 31/12/2024 23:02

CrispieCake · 31/12/2024 20:19

I hate NYE. I put the toddler to bed the latest I reasonably can (around 9pm) and then get bullied into staying up until silly-o-clock (usually at least 1pm). Everyone else sleeps until midday and I'm awake with a hangover with the toddler by 8am latest.

And they get woken up by neighbours having stupidly loud fireworks anyway.

RainbowColouredRainbows · 31/12/2024 23:07

The new year is what you make of it and whether you put pressure on yourself to enjoy it like on the TV. I used to force myself to go out every year and hated it. Tonight me and dd ordered a Chinese, I had a glass of gin, we watched a film, player hide and seek and then went to bed. I am in my happy place. If I stay up till midnight or fall asleep before has little bearing on my life on the whole so I don't pressure myself either way. Currently dd is asleep and I'm in bed watching tv. I'll see the new year at some point, whether it is in 1 hour or 8 if I fall asleep before.

icecreamscoops · 31/12/2024 23:09

My poor cat has been screeching round the house and is now hiding out petrified from the ridiculously loud bangs outside the house
I don't like nye!

endsnewyearsday · 31/12/2024 23:13

SEmyarse · 31/12/2024 19:50

There is NOTHING that makes me more tired than NYE. As soon as I know I HAVE to stay up till midnight I want to go to bed - about 4pm. Of course I don't have to stay up but then by default I'll end up up until about 10.30 and then it seems silly to 'miss' it by 1.5 hours so put myself through torture to reach some poxy fireworks.

If you had a nice nap at 4pm you'd be fine for midnight 😂

ElderLemon · 31/12/2024 23:17

ThePoliteLion · 31/12/2024 19:57

Now I’m middle aged, I feel no pressure to do anything other than sit on my sofa with a dog or two. It’s bliss. I do not need to see the NY in. But when I was young, the pressure to go out was real. I didn’t really like it. Love staying in!

Yes I think one of the great joys of age is not doing stuff just because. I only do what I want to do, it's brilliant.

treesocks23 · 31/12/2024 23:20

100%! I love Christmas and twixmas but I haven’t been out / with other people for years’ except our little family of 4. DH is an early bird so tends to go to bed early and it always feels like something quite forced even if you’re staying in chilling. This year is the first one DS has done his own thing (18) and that feels weird.
I do like NY day though. I tend to do a roast dinner and it’s a bit like a mini Christmas as I don’t host over Christmas.

glad I’m not the only one who struggles with NY!

Debrathom · 31/12/2024 23:37

Growing up, I would stand on the doorstop with my Dad and listen to the bells chime 12 on NYE. My Dad would always say "That's another years over we can't get back". Thanks Dad, you left me with a lifelong melancholy on New Year's Eve!

SpringIscomingalso · 31/12/2024 23:45

i'll wish it now

Blankspace35 · 31/12/2024 23:48

Im only really up to make sure my cats are ok when the fireworks all go off.They hate them. Hubby is already in bed as he has to be up at 4 to go to work in the morning. Its me and the kids and cats.

bakermummy21 · 31/12/2024 23:51

New year eve was always the disappointing night compared to Christmas Eve growing up. Now stay in watching Jooles Holland which is actually filmed weeks before NYE. Depressing

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 01/01/2025 00:15

Caravaggiouch · 31/12/2024 20:48

New Year’s Eve makes me feel really maudlin. I don’t know anyone who ever actually has a good time.

It can do for me as well. I haven’t risked any alcohol!

MeinKraft · 01/01/2025 00:36

It depresses the life out of me! And it ruins the week in between Christmas and 1st Jan as i spend the whole time dreading it. We always end up putting Jools Holland on as some kind of sadistic self torture. Fuck me it is dreadful.

Glass5lipper · 01/01/2025 00:37

It's a weird limbo along with NYD! Ds20 was let down for a night out clubbing so we've had a family party as he's at the age I feel where he needs to feel he's done something to 'celebrate'. Along with DH and DD11 we have been to a big city shopping centre (1hr drive away), had a meal then visited grandparents and come home for a buffet tea, card game then VR games and adilts have had a few drinks. Not rock and roll when you're 20 but not our usual evening so it's felt like a little party (weird as a family of 4!) .

I was dreading NYE yesterday but weirdly it's been one of our best along with when we had friends who hosted parties at their house (now divorced so different dynamic unfortunately).

I feel like you though I think. CBA going out, CBA going to a friend's gathering, CBA hosting and sick of sitting on the sofa and bored of just DH company but feeling socially so
pent too and TV crap tonight.

YesItsMe44 · 01/01/2025 00:41

Ii live in the states. If I'm so inclined I'll watch "the ball drop in Times Square." It's 3 hours later than me, so I'm going to bed anytime after 9p feeling satisfied I watched midnight arrive somewhere in the world. Honestly, I'm reading a book or watching TV and asleep by 10-10:30p my time.

lovemetomybones · 01/01/2025 00:46

Last year was hosted by Rick Astley. NYE will never be that good again!

Moonlightdust · 01/01/2025 00:52

I thought it was just me. Whatever I do, I always have this sense of melancholy and can’t even describe why!

BigSilly · 01/01/2025 00:54

Well it is nothing isn't it, it's like getting excited about the mileometer clicking over to the next 10000

Fedupsequin · 01/01/2025 00:58

I was thinking this tonight-we make a fuss of it but I can’t imagine that we would if it didn’t fall within the Christmas break. It’s like an extension of the festivities rather than us actually being excited for the event.

Vcal2017 · 01/01/2025 01:22

Try having your birthday on January 1st! It’s terrible. I can’t remember the last time I had an enjoyable birthday. I took some Mumsnet advice, ordered takeaway and watched Better Call Saul, but social media filled with people having great/sociable times makes me both jealous and relieved that it’s not me!

XxSideshowAuntSallyx · 01/01/2025 06:30

TheVofR · 31/12/2024 22:24

We've had parties in the past that have been OK, good even. But yeah, I'm not a fan, there is too much expectation, and even when you are doing absolutely nothing, there is still something about it. I don't like Christmas either. Absolutely love from March to October when you can do things as you please, lighter nights, warmer weather, hope in the air. You sort of just have to soldier on through it if you are not keen, and I agree once it is over, then it things do get back on more of an even keel.

Yes I'm so looking forward to spring. I did some gardening the other day, just planting some spring bulbs but it felt good to be outside. The fact that in a month or two the daffodils will be popping out their heads, the tulips and crocus' too is giving me hope.

I hate January and February with a passion, it is always so cold and gloomy.

Wonderwall23 · 01/01/2025 07:49

I enjoyed New Years Eve when I was younger (i.e. 20 odd years ago).

I don't like it now but hate is a bit strong. I don't understand why people engage with it if they feel that strongly. No one has to participate! Just ignore it and treat it as a normal evening, or do something you enjoy. We had one of our favourite dinners at home and then went to bed early with a boxset. Asleep before New Year. DS is 10 but not bothered about staying up so also went to bed at normal time.

A few happy new year messages on the family whatsapps, which was nice, all pre-midnight as everyone else doing same as us. Nice to have the day off work today amd we will relax this morning and see family this pm. Will start a few minor self-care habits tomorrow in an attempt to mark a fresh start.

Londonrach1 · 01/01/2025 07:50

Yanbu. We all went to bed after a meal and playing games as a extended family...not one single adult stayed awake..we can enjoy new years day now

Zippedydodah · 01/01/2025 07:56

popduckhe · 31/12/2024 20:33

I'm indifferent about it. Don't feel pressured to do anything and I'm not! 😂 how things change!

Me too! I was tucked up nice and warm in bed with my book, a hot chocolate and a biscuit by 8.30 last night, sound asleep by 9.
I don’t understand why someone people feel it’s obligatory to stay up until midnight 😵‍💫

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