Partner picked a gym class over seeing family

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Dp is obsessive about the gym. He has his own fitness classes he runs but they are closed over the festive period. He has been every day bar Christmas Day to other gyms to “network” and see people. Fine. We’ve done nothing together though - not even a walk. We’ve watched some films and stuff but mostly been looking after the kids.

He went this morning to a class for 2 hours. Which is fine by me, I planned to go and see my grandma who I haven’t seen this Christmas. My grandma asked me to ask DP to come over after the gym so I asked him at 2pm. He said he couldn’t because he was tired from this mornings class and wanted to sleep this afternoon because he is going again to another class at 7pm. I said okay and left it there. It would’ve taken him 30 mins to get here, but didn’t want to make him come.

He’s since text me numerous times asking if I’m okay, which I’m not but I’m not having an argument over text and I can’t really say I’m upset because you chose the gym over me.

Aibu? I get if it’s his classes but we rarely get time together and he’s chosen to sleep and not see my family when I have seen his family over this festive period.

Don't have children with this man

I've never understood this mentality either but a lot of people on here look for reasons to be offended or annoyed.
Especially when it comes to female in laws.

It’s a great opportunity for networking for his own classes - which what OP said he was doing - because so many people start exercising at this time of year. Basically he’s prioritising work and building his business.

I’ve had a very disordered relationship with training before and I really do wonder if that’s what’s going on here. I wouldn’t have done what he did but if something got in the way of what my intention was for training that day, it really messed with my head
Even if his full time employment is in fitness industry I don’t think that explains this behaviour, it sounds more like an exercise addiction. I don’t think you’re being unreasonable being upset, but agree with previous posters that you do need to tell him. However I wonder if it is more useful to
come at it from a place of concern- the PPs who yoi shouldn’t have to deal with this- well it depends if you care about this relationship and man enough to figure out if there’s a problem here or just want to write it all off

of course option two is that he is a selfish ahole 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

Personal trainers aren't limited to just one gym (unless they're under contract) - it makes business sense to go to other gyms to potentially attract clients.

This 👆 A calm discussion needs to be had here.