AIBU - golf?

[MissScarletInTheBallroom]

(Lighthearted.)

Based on every single thread I've ever read which mentions a DH/DP playing golf, AIBU to think that you don't marry or have kids with a man who plays golf, and if your DH decides to take up golf, you divorce him pronto?

It seems like this activity was invented purely to enable selfish lazy men who aren't fit enough to do a real sport to avoid family life.

AIBU?

Depends on who you married. I am a ‘golf widow’ as OP has put it and my DH benefits from this a lot which in turn benefits me.
he had a breakdown a few years ago and uses golf as a great way of helping him maintain his health. He ensures that he does his fair share around the house and did an extra shift at work to pay for me to do something nice. Not all men are selfish twats.

This.

I'd like to take up cycling and learn golf actually. And horse riding. And drumming lessons. And sewing.

It's good that I am single.

No, they should do things they want to do while leaving the children with their dad! I’m struggling to see why this is so difficult to grasp.

Yep. Came here to say pretty much this! My husband has a hobby (it's not golf), and it does take him away from the family at times, but so does my hobby, and he doesn't take the piss. We achieve the right balance and get family time as well as time for ourselves individually. My friend's husband, in contrast, has no hobbies at all, but he's a complete lazy twat who will do anything to avoid pulling his weight as home, including sitting scrolling on his phone, having long showers/baths, or working overtime. Anything to get away from the drudgery of family life.

So it's definitely the man and not the hobby.

If their dad is either working or out on hobbies that would be difficult wouldn't it?

They alternate. It’s not rocket science.

OK Candide

I don’t subscribe to martyrdom as a lifestyle choice. I fully get that some people make it difficult for their spouses to enjoy life outside the home but this thread seems to be blaming “men and their hobbies” for the sake of it. I’ll reiterate that in a decent marriage a hobby should not be a problem. More fool you if you choose not to take time out for yourself.