We will be having a family christening in the spring and inviting anyone who travels for it to a get together at our house the evening before. Last family event ended with BIL being verbally abusive and incredibly insulting to me and bad mouthing me to the rest of the family. He has a history of this behaviour with all members of his family and they always appease him and welcome him back at a later date. He crossed a line with me and I do not want to invite him to my house. He will come to the christening which is fine as he is still part of the family and it is on neutral ground. DH wants to invite him to our home for the get together as he wants harmony with him.. the thought of having him in my house again makes me feel sick and will stress me out no end... After the last event, DH also said he would not be inviting him back. He has now changed his mind. No compromise possible as it is an invite or not invite situation. Should I give in and go along with the invite? The insults and verbal abuse at the time were unfounded......the whole family agrees on that