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The oldest you've known someone to get pregnant naturally?

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ineedtowomanup · 29/12/2024 10:56

My Grandmother was 44 when she had my youngest uncle, a healthy pregnancy and my uncle is now 47.

What's the oldest you've known someone to conceive and give birth?

OP posts:
Funnywonder · 30/12/2024 00:02

I was 45 when I had my youngest. I haven't met anyone older, but obviously they're out there😆

Crazybaby123 · 30/12/2024 00:02

52, not me, someone I know.

Moonlightstars · 30/12/2024 00:04

A colleague at 49. By mistake with her soon to be ex husband. She retired as her DD went to primary school. Child no 5 a blessing and a curse.

Lobsterteapot · 30/12/2024 00:04

46 - she had just adopted a daughter thinking she couldn’t conceive!

ineedtowomanup · 30/12/2024 00:25

Crazybaby123 · 30/12/2024 00:02

52, not me, someone I know.

No!!

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cherish123 · 30/12/2024 00:27

46

ineedtowomanup · 30/12/2024 00:27

AxolotlEars · 29/12/2024 23:46

52... naturally conceived, first baby

Wow!!

I was not expecting these ages.

OP posts:
unclemtty · 30/12/2024 00:32
  1. Was my primary school teacher. Baby was born healthy. The teacher was very strict at school but an absolute pushover as a mum, absolutely smitten with her baby 🥰
Chocolatetoothache · 30/12/2024 00:32

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 29/12/2024 23:10

47 is the oldest I have known a woman have a baby through natural conception...This was 2009. She and her 43 y.o. DH already had a son. So this was their second child. (She had her first son at 30, then got pregnant at 46, and had another son. Didn't know she was pregnant until she was 6 months in.) This is the ONLY woman I know who had a baby by natural conception as old as 47 though.

Apart from her, I have known (in my life) around half a dozen women have a baby at a similar age - 45 to 46 years old, (by natural conception,) and every last one (including the first woman) had a problem with the pregnancy, and the birth, and the child had some kind of health issues/problems. Some they didn't discover til the child was a bit older. But they all had some kind of health issue. (Not saying every child born to a 45-47 y.o. mother via natural conception will have some kind of health issues, but they are far more likely to than if the mother had been early 40s or less...)

As for the people saying their gran/great aunt etc had a baby at 51/52-or older. Highly unlikely. Chances are high that she took on a child of one of her daughters, or nieces...Or even a child of one of her sons... Happened quite a lot pre mid 1970s. (Still happens now occasionally...) The chance of conceiving naturally even in your early 50s is vanishingly small. Mid 50s, nigh on impossible.

@Rubyupbeat · Today 13:17

Twin boys, mum was 55 and Dad was 80, their 3 other children had grown up and left home and the twins were a complete shock, their youngest being 22.

I met them at the clinic I worked at.

100% certainty this was IVF.

@YouLookinSusBro · Today 20:05

56! A woman at work. Was a surprise natural conception too.

No it wasn't. No woman would ever conceive naturally at 56. It was either IVF, or this woman took on a grandchild and attempted to pass it off as her own.

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Edited

The oldest recent verified natural pregnancy/birth was at age 59. It’s in the record books. So, though very rare, it does actually happen to women in their 50s.

Bewareofstepfords · 30/12/2024 00:50

ineedtowomanup · 29/12/2024 10:56

My Grandmother was 44 when she had my youngest uncle, a healthy pregnancy and my uncle is now 47.

What's the oldest you've known someone to conceive and give birth?

A friend of mine became pregnant for the first and only time at age 47 after a night of booze-induced fun with an old flame from way back who was passing through the town she'd moved away to.
She and everyone else were utterly gobsmacked but she had a healthy and very beautiful baby a few days before she (the mum) hit 48.
And the even older first time dad stuck around and co-parented.

Thursa · 30/12/2024 01:27

Friend had a surprise baby at 45.

hellywelly3 · 30/12/2024 01:29

52, never been pregnant before. A total surprise. Healthy little boy. A friend of my mums.

Ladymuck2022 · 30/12/2024 01:45

Someone with a birth year of 1969.
But they were a different nationality and suffered a premature delivery in complications unfortunately.

I’ve also had an aunt with successful pregnancy in 40’s when their previous children were turning adults themselves.

IHateMozzies · 30/12/2024 02:04

55

mondaytosunday · 30/12/2024 02:31

Sister 45, friend 46. I had mine at 41 and 43. All conceived naturally.

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 30/12/2024 02:50

One of the mums at the childminder my DD went to got pregnant at 49.

Ladyj84 · 30/12/2024 03:10

My mum 45 my youngest bro now 21 just got married which was mcoe but ye he was a suprise to all of us older siblings and my parents 😊 had my youngest single at 40, twins at 42 and there little monkeys at 2 and 3 now adored by there teen siblings and all very much loved adored and normal home births

sashh · 30/12/2024 03:14

Saschka · 29/12/2024 11:44

I’d also point out that in a lot of these “great aunt with teenage daughter had a surprise baby at 50 in 1957” cases, the baby was the teenage daughter’s and it was being passed off as the 50 year old’s for reasons of social acceptability.

But not always.

My grandmother and her sister were teens when their brother was born. He was what was called a 'change of life baby' and predictably named Gerard.

Willyoujustbequiet · 30/12/2024 03:21

First child. No ivf.

ThatKhakiMoose · 30/12/2024 05:00

mikado1 · 29/12/2024 11:40

NDN - surprise twins at 48.

Oh WHY do people use acronyms so much! I spend a lot of time on the internet and I still have to look up some every day. NDN came up as Native Indian. But also next-door neighbour. I would never have known what NDN meant. Also had to look up p/w, LI, BIC, and a couple of other things I can't remember. I've been an enthusiastic internet user for years and I still find my reading tripped up by all these acronyms. It is literally never ending and very annoying!

No shade to you, PP! I've just had enough of looking up acronyms this week!

YankSplaining · 30/12/2024 05:02

My aunt by marriage’s mother got pregnant at 50, but had a second-trimester miscarriage.

YankSplaining · 30/12/2024 05:05

sashh · 30/12/2024 03:14

But not always.

My grandmother and her sister were teens when their brother was born. He was what was called a 'change of life baby' and predictably named Gerard.

As a teenager, my mother was friends with “Barbara,” whose mother had a baby when Barbara was 18. Barbara was mortified - “everyone’s going to think it’s secretly my baby!”

Jumell · 30/12/2024 05:06

As I've say I've known natural pregnancy at 51 and this did result in a successful birth :)

Ohhbaby · 30/12/2024 05:58

MsCactus · 29/12/2024 20:06

I'm enjoying the positivity on this thread, but I agree with you! Another pp posted that research shows the average upper limit of fertility is age 41... So although there will always be outliers, you should probably plan around the averages - as averages mean there will also be people who become infertile younger than 41

While I know people who've had babies in their mid 40s, I also I know quite a few who have struggled TTC in their 30s

Yes and especially as a lot of these older pregnancies happened awhile back and fertility rates seem to be declining. So even though I'm sure it wasn't uncommon for your great gm or grandmother to have a baby mid 40s, with today's widespread use of plastic, hormonal contraceptives, pesticides, you name it, I wouldn't chance it.
I have read stats that suggest naturally conceiving seem to be a problem for a growing number of couples even in their 30s.

MaggieBsBoat · 30/12/2024 07:44

I still have periods on a regular 28 day cycle at 51.
I‘m one of 6.
My mother one of 9 and my grandmother on of 12.

All of us had babies in our 40s. My last (5th) at 43.

I assume that I don’t ovulate every cycle and if I do the eggs are really lousy. Not a risk I’d be willing to take though and I got my tubes tied.