I thought you can just write anyone out of the will for no reason ???!

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I was under the impression you can do whatever you want and not have to qualify it in any way at all?? Even if it’s your child ?

I have one brother and I had always assumed that DM and DF would split things equally between us. It turns out (I have found out by accident after one text was sent to me by mistake and a family member spoke to me as well) that they want to now leave all to DB. The thing is they are under the impression they have to prove completely that I’m not in any way dependent on them and that the relationship between us has totally broken down. I knew obviously they had suddenly blocked me on everything but I think they are wrong thinking this. They can do what they want? I feel like saying to them are you really that stupid ! Surely they’d have taken legal advice ??!

I always got on ok with them till I met dh 2 years ago (they don’t approve of him - he’s not the right class or the right colour apparently). They don’t want family money ‘in the wrong hands’ . In some ways it’s funny seeing them tie themselves up in this unecessary web. I saw DM when shopping one day she practically threw herself in the potatoes to try and avoid me it’s ridiculous.

AIBU to think that even if it’s morally wrong anyone can leave a child out of their will if they are mean and want to
they don’t have to justify it ?

My adoptive parents changed their wills some 10 years ago from 50/50 to 100% to my adoptive brother with a token sum to me if they both died within a short period. My 'crime'? Not having children and having successfully found my birth mother many years earlier. One has since died, I hope the other carries on in rude (and expensively cared for) health until the estate is exhausted. 😁

It doesn’t matter that you have no intention of contesting the will - they obviously think you will. So zero point telling them you won’t. But since they are so awful it might be fun to tease them over the text sent in error 😂.

Well you have the text message now as proof they are doing this deliberately and that the “estrangement” is pretence.

I would fry their heads sending emails texts and recorded mail every week showing a very loving relationship on their part and thanking them for small made up financial assistance and food packs lol

Like PP I would be utterly unable to resist tagging them allll over social media regularly with photos and "Thanks for the card", "So great to have such a lovely long chat to you on the phone last night" "Yet another generous influx of funds from Mum and Dad, close families are such a blessing" etc etc ad infinitum

It would brighten up my day no end every time I posted one.

This is so hurtful.They want to prevent you being able to make a claim under the Inheritance Act. If you wanted to claim, it would be you that had to prove that financial provision should have been made for you. There’s a useful summary here; chosen at random and I don’t know these solicitors but it seems fairly standard

https://www.brethertons.co.uk/site/blog/claiming-under-the-inheritance-act-1975

No, "U.K." doesn't apply to this scenario as the law differs in Scotland. Scotland is very much like those European jurisdictions you mention.