It was you

[Margauxdes]

Have you ever read a thread on mumsnet and realised that the person was talking or complaining about you?

That number is MASSIVELY overinflated 😂😂

I think I remember that one. Bravo. By ghosted do you mean she ordered a cake you made it and then she never picked up or paid? Did you comment on her post? That would have been cherry on top!

What was the consensus of the rep,ies? Or was it a 'banal' post about Lego or something?

No. I have on Twitter tho. Someone who
I chat shit with about a soap opera disagreed with a political opinion I have and chose to make a song and dance about it 😂🙄

I name change regularly; it's to protect over-time anonymity so posts aren't pieced together like some on mumsnet like to do if a poster upsets/annoys/makes them suspicious for some reason...

No, but I have read one that was about my mother from her step daughter in law, who horrendously misrepresented the whole situation and neglected to mention the 10s of thousands of pounds my mum and step dad have generously gifted to them to ensure she got the answer she wanted from posters. Makes me take each thread with a large pinch of salt!

A friend irl mentioned a situation that I posted about. I had changed some of the details as it was a very specific and sad thing that I was agonising over.
She knows my parents all too well and she was astounded that the behaviour of “the poster’s parents” was more common than she realised.
Ironically on the thread several responses warned that the information I had posted was identifying.

I don't really care if someone recognises me on here. I have recognised 1 person but before I could tell them they were gone.

I’ve recognised a mate from one of those post your engagement ring threads. She has a very unique ring. And yeah I did search her history but didn’t see anything about me lol. I still see her post from time to time.

That's really shit. I've always taken the view that if I am going to post, I'll post truthfully regardless whether it's "outing" or not.

Nope, not ever, but have read many threads and posts over the decades that could have been mine or by people I know or related to.

Vive la difference and yay for our similarities too; makes life even more worth living xxx.

So why be pompous and proclaim "name change for this"? It makes no sense

It's not "pompous". It's the same as saying, "I am a proper, fully-paid-up member of this community, but I don't want to be outed for this post about this particular situation."

The thread was over something fairly trivial, but it just confirmed how grabby and outright selfish her and my step brother are. Took everything not to comment the truth of the situation but glad I resisted 😂

I think I've recognised myself on a compilation of anecdotes on a theme thread. In a seriously unflattering anecdote. True though so only myself to blame! And it was a strangers in the same space type story.

I've previously posted my engagement ring but it's a bit unique so think I might try and get it removed. I don't NC loads but I do on some threads like this one just in case. I should be less attached to my username!

I post under a completely different name for FWR (I fact I don't post there anymore).
I have a LGBT family member and the hate I've had spewed at me for allowing them any voice is truly shocking. The posters are always the same six people.
I'm a huge fan of MN and people have offered fantastic advice over the years but that board is too vicious for me.

I’m also intrigued as to what @AndSoFinally exh said. I would love to read what rubbish my exh said about me. It would be entertaining at least

I don't think it is necessarily self-important. If I were writing about something from which I thought I could be identified, I suspect I'd name change - not because I think MN will be flocking to do advanced searches, but just as a precaution in case someone I knew thought they recognised the situation and then went on an advanced search to check whether they were right.

I work in a moderately niche area, and a couple of times I've come across myself being mentioned in a forum about that area. Once it was critical, which left a bit of a dilemma, in that I obviously wanted to defend myself. I think I did suggest mildly, in an anonymous persona, that there could be another side to the story

No, but my friend noticed a poster moaning about the same thing as me and showed me my own thread! I admitted it was me.

Which thread?!

Not on mums net but on a big Facebook group called single mums uk, a friend of a friend told me that I'd commented on one of her anonymous posts giving her great advice and thanked me. Funnily I remember reading the post and thinking 'this sounds like friend and her horrid ex and his horrid affair partner' and had given the advice with her in mind.

Oh shit, I've had the same username for years. I've changed it for starting threads about things I don't want linked back to me, but most of the time I just talk about nonsense. My mum found me a few years ago (2016) which was funny. 😅