Is this card adequate

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Pls is this card adequate from a partner of 29 years and 2 kids?

I hate this mindset where Christmas/birthdays morph into some sort if test.

I mean, you need a present with it. On its own, it's not adequate.

DH got you a card, and that's a lovely thing.

What are you thinking about it?

Huh? It's a card.

We don't do them for eachother.

DH and I don't give each other cards. Is that all you got OP? What is wrong with it?

Oh my god, it's the most amazing card I've ever seen! You are so lucky, I hope you thanked him profusely 🥰🎄🥰🎄🥰🎄

Yes it's adequate

Not really sure what you mean by adequate, just looks like a normal Christmas card.

Nothing says 'I've grabbed the first card I saw' or 'I left it too late to you anything decent' like a generic knitted dog card. They're for people you don't know very well. If you're going to get your partner a card, get something well considered or personal or don't bother at all.

You're going to need to give us some kind of sliding scale of adequacey. How do the number of years and number of children factor, equal importance, some kind of multiple?

Who sets the rules and who makes the final decision?

After 29 years and 2 kids are you not just at the grunting stage? We're almost there at 23 years.

In seriousness though I'm guessing this is a tip of the iceberg type thing. Do you generally feel unappreciated elsewhere?

However it may just be a lack of choice type thing, lots of husband/wife cards (not applicable) boy/girlfriend (seems a bit casual) maybe then the partner cards were a bit drab, so this was the compromise.

What message was written in it?

I wouldn’t even consider giving a card to someone I lived with! I say « Happy Christmas » to them. My OH died 7 years ago. I’d be happy with what you e got.

Personally, I find there is an inadequacy of decent cards for partners or ones for “the one I love”. Far more for “to my husband/wife” with the implication of positive feelings for them. At least he thinks you’re special.

We don't give cards to each other at Christmas so I don't see what's wrong with it

I've been married for 20 years and never had a Christmas card from my husband however I've had some amazing presents and he is the nicest man I know; I don't need a cheap piece of paper with a sentiment written by someone else to tell me he cares as I see it every day.

Not sure what your point is OP.

I detest naff cards like this, but then, my husband and I don’t give each other cards.

Yes. It’s fine obviously

Stop looking for prob. It’s fine.

Adequate?

It's a card, it's Christmassy, what else do you want?

What's wrong with it?

Adequate in what sense? What were you hoping for?

Fuck me, is this what some relationships come down to?

It’s more than adequate.
It’s lovely 😻

Who has the problem with it? You or him?

What would be an adequate card in your/his eyes?

Well it is pointless if you just write to blah, happy Christmas, love blah. But we write thanks for things each other has done during the year and other sentiments. So it is something special???!!