AIBU to have my little Christmas strop here rather than in real life and to ask you to share yours too?

[HornungTheHelpful]

So, it’s been a crap stressful year. Marriage has been strained by outside factors. H worked away for most of December. Things finally improving and was mildly looking forward to today. Anyway, he is ill. Properly, not leaving bedroom unwell. Not overreacting - he’s in a bad way. So I’m here by myself with three smallish children (7 and under) limited food options as we are supposed to be at my mum’s this afternoon through Boxing Day. He’s done none of the Christmas morning work so I’ve done it all (and not saying he should just upset I’m on my own spinning all the plates again). He hasn’t opened any of the presents I got him (again not saying he should have - just upset by circumstances) and he’s now asleep and I don’t know what we’re supposed to be doing.

I just don’t want to be on my own anymore. And here I am at Christmas by myself again.

OP ( in the nicest possible way) don’t be a martyr…

If he’s sick he can’t help it - leave him a plate of snacks and some water and go to your mums house.

Just go without him.

You said yourself he probably wants to rest alone, your family have said come anyway. There's no point in ruining the kids day and wasting your mums time because you're stroppy about him being unwell which is completely out of his control.

I have had 6 rounds of chemo and a mastectomy 2 days ago, I'm 41. Just had a walk around the block and a big cry. Hard to be happy all the time for the kids. Home now, paint the smile back on and go to mums for dinner

You’re so strong xx Although don’t be afraid to take some time out whenever you need it xx

HornungTheHelpful

Oh dear, what a crappy situation for you. I think that you're very considerate to stay away, for the sake of your pregnant sister - how many times have we seen on here about someone taking their kids with D&V to a relative's and them all coming down with it?

I just hope you can make the best of your bad situation. Would anyone be able to bring some Xmas food round for you and the kids? To leave on the doorstep?

Mine's that my evil SiL invited herself for Christmas, just on Friday. Her boyfriend wasn't coming, then on Monday, he was. I have a 5 kilos rib of beef in the oven and enough spuds, carrots and parsnips for 9 people, along with a huge cauliflower cheese, done last night.

Last night at about 9, she said she's too tired. We now have food for 9 and only five here.

I had this years ago when it was just us, our 4 year old son and his 12 year old who was staying..ended up just being me and the 12 year old at Christmas dinner as my son has asd
I feel your pain...hopefully next year will be better x

Got my mother again this year because none of my siblings even consider that she will be alone today.

My sister just says “well, she like being on her own”!
WTF, that’s ok then, as long as you have your fucking ils round every year so please your arsehole partner, that’s ok then. That is her only reasoning…”she likes being on her own”.

Every fucking year.

I just want us, just for once, just us.

@chubbychihauhau

Excuse me? Your husband gave your presents away to a stranger. What the actual fuck?

This is slightly harsh. He can’t be more than 10ft from a toilet!

But yes - I understand the sentiment 🤣

Oh wow! Have as big a cry as you want! I hope you are having a nice as possible Christmas Day and that your treatment is successful.

Infuriating! At least cold roast beef is tasty!

Dogs are the best!

You should just go as planned. I'm always being asked if it's ok for people to see me with minor illnesses or being asked if I'm being careful, I've got an autoimmune disease, it doesn't cross my mind. You can't shelter from everything.

We have just had the most bizarre lunch - which the children loved. Treated myself to an extra hair wash (luckily we have more than one bathroom) and we’re going to go to my Mum’s when the 3yo wakes up. You’re all quite right and am grateful for the perspective, a much needed Christmas gift. H and I will do grown up Christmas one evening in the week when he’s feeling better.

Happy Christmas. Xxx

Spending the day with STBXH as my family are all abroad together and he doesn't have any living family.
He forgot we agreed to get each other something small to open (£5-10 max) so I've got no presents today.
Going to spend today cooking a really banging dinner and drowning my sorrows in Prosecco, hopefully sobering up by 9 for the Gavin and Stacey finale.

Hope he gets out instead.

I feel you op. Same situation with my dh.

I have ordered a takeaway kids are playing and I'm going to watch some trashy tv 😂 hope your day gets better xxx

sandybeaches74 · Today 11:57

I have had 6 rounds of chemo and a mastectomy 2 days ago, I'm 41. Just had a walk around the block and a big cry. Hard to be happy all the time for the kids. Home now, paint the smile back on and go to mums for dinner

💐

It can still be upsetting even when it's no one's fault.

I'll join you, husband bought me hideous gifts that I'm not sure what he was thinking (jewellery) - think volume rather than value, loads of presents all bad taste and tacky...

To add to this my Mail is getting on my tits milling around and making inane small talk

MIL!!

Good idea to get it out here rather than IRL!

I don't have much to complain about, fortunately - just that two of my family members (a couple) are not speaking to each other and "can't" be in the same room together. This has apparently been going on since Sunday. It's especially awkward because, due to a long-standing arrangement, they're hosting Christmas dinner for the extended family at their house. There's still time (it's only noonish here), but it'll be "interesting" to see what happens when it's time to sit down to dinner.

Tried to go for a family walk. Not a lovely walk to a village pub for a beer, across the bracing moors. No we live in Texas which is dull AF. So a suburban walk down to an area that used to be all trees and bayous but they’ve been ripped down for development. So off we go. Middle son Complaining his dad is so slow (recovering still from knee surgery 3mths ago), and actually not that slow. He’s so irritated he goes home. We get somewhat of a family photo of the day, missing one. We get to the area for walking and my 7yo is screaming over and over she wants to see an alligator. Which you won’t see if you scream, and they’ve been moved on due to the development. But won’t be told that. So I have to walk off. Meandering home in silence and quite a few neighbours taking a constitutional around the streets. I really hate this place, there is literally nothing to do apart from shop and eat out. Ugh.

I’ll have a moan though completely irrelevant compared to some people’s real hardships here (so sorry to hear some awful times). Invited the ex for Christmas dinner, all I asked was he entertain our children whilst I cooked (and had 5 minutes to myself - arranging Christmas around three autistic kids, one of whom has been sick with different things all month, all by myself). Parked himself on my sofa and didn’t move the whole time he was here. Didn’t offer to help or wash up. Couldn’t even have a glass of wine as was driving them all to his after. I will be having 1 (or five) now everyone out from under my feet 🤣.

HerRoyalNotness · Today 17:20

Are you sorted of vaguely Houston area? I once flew from Tampa to Houston for a job and was amazed by the mangroves all the way. The only gator I saw was in Port Manatee, a five footer in a pond by the offices.