DH and the 3 hour nap

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AIBU to be absolutely fuming (lighthearted) at DH for coming home from work today then taking a 3 hour (so far) nap. 4 DC under 5 wondering when he's joining us for Christmas. Just me then!

Has he been drinking?

Why haven't you woken him?

Woke him after an hour, he said he would be down in a minute....

Bloody hell! Unless he is ill, I don’t understand how your rage is lighthearted

An hour would be fine.

i have two small children and am pregnant and i would be bloody fuming

How long was he at work, and what does he do for work? If he's just done 8 odd hours of manual labour after a stupidly early start i wouldn't begrudge a nap, but even so, 3 hours is pushing it. Can you send the dc in to rouse him?

I’m all for naps in life, but not when you have small children on Christmas Eve.

I'm not sure. It depends how long he has been working. If he's come off a 12 hour night shift, that's very different to a couple of extra hours work on Christmas Eve.

If he works nights, fine.

Otherwise, WTAF?

Nope. Normal office job. Half day today for Christmas

I would have got him up after an hour, although I would have asked him not to have a nap in the first place, where is your nap in looking after 4 excited kids 7 under 5

Get him up now. This is unacceptable. The kids want him. That should mean he gets up immediately.

You'll get LOADS of people here saying, wake him. Don't be a martyr etc.

Last Christmas day, my DH took a "nap" after brunch/presents that lasted till 6pm. At which point dinner was ruined and my then 1 year old and I ate alone, not quite what I'd expected. I posted here and honestly was amazed at the responses about how I was being a martyr and I should be more understanding bla bla

Yes, he may be tired. But do you know what. So are all parents at this time of year. He naps through most the day today, he's on washing up and bin duty til new year. And you get some down time without the kids.

Four under 5?! I’d be fuming. But I’d have also woken him up again.

I'd have got his arse up way before the three hour mark

Open the bedroom door, put all the kids in there with him and take a few hours to yourself.

Does he think because he had a half day that the time off is his time and he shouldn't have to do anything in the house?

This

That's why God invented the airhorn.

Fuming and lighthearted is an oxymoron

God, the jammy bastard. I would bloody love a long nap.

Not quite the same but my DH cleared off to the shops for 3 hours this afternoon leaving me alone with toddler and Christmas prep because he didn't like the sound of what I was planning to cook tonight and had forgotten to get the one type of chocolate his mother had asked for her stocking. He's home now and 'relaxing'. Although I've told him I'm going for a run and he needs to feed toddler. Can you just put all children in bedroom with him and go for a walk?

Has he actually forgotten he has children to parent? How unattractive and selfish.

I think he’s being incredibly inconsiderate. Sure he’s tired, but I bet you are too. An hour’s nap should have been restorative enough for him.

If it’s any consolation, he may well not sleep terribly soundly tonight after such a long nap, but that’ll serve him right.

It may be a little inconsiderate, but what if he is coming down with something? If this isn’t a regular thing, then it might just be a one off late night / sick nap. Maybe he can make it up to you by wrapping presents late or prepping food for tomorrow? He will be full on energy when he wakes (if not sick)!

I love my naps. Wish I could have a 3 hour one too..

I expect he's had a few to drink. It's pretty standard (or it used to be not that long ago) to decamp to the pub on Christmas Eve when you finish early. He's sleeping it off.