First let me tell you that my Mil is adorable, loving, generous and a really kind person so no general Mil bashing here. It's just that every time we're invited to hers she gets overwhelmed with preparations why we rarely go for dinner/other but we "stop by". So she's hosting christmas like every year because she wants to and have a bigger place as well. We have managed to atleast talk her in to us (Dh and me + 2 tween DC) bring everything (salads, oysters, shrimps, champagne, wine, desert etc) except the turkey that she insists on doing. So I was happy that this year she was not going to stress around and we could come ti her house early to have some time together before eating. Well, she wants us there for 19:00. I will have to feed my kids something before going because they will be hungry because we won't eat directly on arrival. I asked her if we could not come earlier since we got all food stuff as well and to have some time together. She almost threw a nervous fit how the house wasn't ready and the turkey and how she went to the hairdresser this morning and now she needed to find a dress etc etc. Everything is just so complicated with her and she gets stressed out very easily. I thought that finally this christmas we won the battle, that she would only have the turkey (she refused for us to pay for one prepared) and that's it. But she just had to book the hairdresser for today so that she will still find reasons to stress🙄. I love her but I hate spending time with someone who stresses around wondering if everything is perfect... and I want to say it's at our place next christmas even though it's at hers by tradition. AIBU?