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To think a 3:20 finish is absurd?

678 replies

Itsr · 23/12/2024 19:28

It’s mostly mums at the school gates. Because the 3:20 finish worked well at a time when most women stayed at home.

now most women work, which means two parents working, why does school finish ar 3:20?! Yes I know there are after school classes etc but some don’t go on for too long and they also cost.

what actually is the reason why the school day isn’t aligned with a work day (like it is with most private schools!)

OP posts:
AshCrapp · 23/12/2024 21:33

Itsr · 23/12/2024 19:52

@TheFairyCaravan

  1. how do private schools teachers and students cope with a longer day then? By magic?
  2. im not expecting ‘childcare.’ I’m expecting a full day which isn’t 6 hours including lunch and a morning break.
  1. They have less classes.
  1. Schools don't exist to enable you to work. They exist to educate children. Young children don't need - and shouldn't be expected to cope with - the same working day as an adult.
cardibach · 23/12/2024 21:33

MerrilyOnhigh · 23/12/2024 21:22

Do they? When I was at secondary school we had lessons/prep up to 6.15 in winter, with games in the afternoons (except Wednesdays). In summer we had lessons/prep up to 4, and games between 4.30 and 6. We managed.

Not in either of t( schools I’ve worked in, or any that my friends have they have broadly the same number of hours of lessons as state, just linger breaks and extensive co-curricular after.

AshCrapp · 23/12/2024 21:34

In the country I was raised in, school finishes at 1pm. Be glad it's only 3.20...

PreferMyAnimals · 23/12/2024 21:35

Kids need time to play, have free time, learn on their own and be kids. They're kids, not adults. If they extended the school day I'd just home school mine.

ThisTeaIsBad · 23/12/2024 21:36

TouchoftheTism · 23/12/2024 20:42

whoa whoa whoa teachers already work till 5 and beyond. So they may as well teach kids. Perhaps give the kids a 2 hour lunch and teachers can do prep work then.

That would be carnage! The longer the children have in unstructured time the worse their behaviour gets. It is much harder to manage behaviour in this time than it is in the classroom when they are being kept busy. The devil makes work for idle hands...

Motheranddaughter · 23/12/2024 21:37

Most primary schools run like it is the 1950s

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 23/12/2024 21:37

NiftyPeachDreamer · 23/12/2024 21:04

Why is it the state’s job to make up for useless men? Men need to step up and do their bit. I’m seeing many men responsible for pick ups / drop offs at work and that’s as it should be.

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This. ^

DragonGypsyDoris · 23/12/2024 21:38

Because schools can't operate from 0800 to 1800 every day. Let me guess, you'd like to put an end to long summer holidays too?

Balloonhearts · 23/12/2024 21:38

If you want longer school days then the teachers also finish much later. They will need to be paid more for working more hours. Therefore the school costs more to run. This model is of no benefit to the child, only the parents so the parents who want it will have to pay a premium for it. Simple as that.

MumChp · 23/12/2024 21:39

ElleintheWoods · 23/12/2024 21:21

It’s a UK thing OP.

In other countries the child can come to school as early as they like and leave when they like (after lessons). The school building is always open up until 9pm or so. It’s a hub for children.

They can do after school clubs, some are free, some are paid for. They can also not do them and simply sit in a classroom doing homework supervised by a teacher, read/ study in the library, use computers to study or browse for fun, use the sports hall/ gym/ pool/ dance studio.

That’s a normal school setup across Scandinavia and Eastern Europe/ Germany.

When I heard school finishes at 3:20pm in the UK and parents pick kids up, I literally went ‘wtf?’

It’s a system that presumes parents don’t have serious jobs. Yes, there are different hours and some have flexibility and home working now, but many jobs (doctor, barrister, police, …) the mum can’t just walk off at 3 to pick up the kids. 10 years ago very few people had flexi hours…

Moving to the UK was also the first time I heard of anyone working part-time or not working at all because of childcare. It had to be explained to me, I just assumed childcare was free or very cheap like in other countries.

These sorts of jobs and lifestyles barely exist in many countries where there are provisions for parents to be parents and have a career as well. Or at least it wasn’t something I ever came across in Europe, I’d never once heard of someone’s mum working part-time, I think there were some SAHMs but not many.

Which Scandinavian countries are schools open and staffed to 9 pm?

We had children at state school in Denmark before settling in UK.

You had to pay for care from 6.30-8 am and paid for after school care from 1.30-5 pm.
Staff would consult with you if a primary child went in every day 6.30-17. Most Danes would consider it a very long day for young children.

In secondary school after school paid care closed at 5.30 pm with one night a week open to 7.30 pm (you would pay for dinner).

90% of the primary school children were pick up before 3.30 pm.

BuffaloCauliflower · 23/12/2024 21:41

Itsr · 23/12/2024 20:08

@CurlyhairedAssassin nah well just have women taking the hit as usual instead 👍

My husband does half the drop offs/pick ups. Maybe you have a DH problem?

NiftyPeachDreamer · 23/12/2024 21:41

TouchoftheTism · 23/12/2024 21:13

Theres plenty in breakfast and after school clubs so at school for 10 hours. I agree thats too long but an 8 hour day would benefit parents loads.

When would teachers do marking and lesson planning?

Frenzi · 23/12/2024 21:41

Because school isnt a baby sitting service!

Bethany83 · 23/12/2024 21:41

Private schools 'manage' it by having a rota of staff to cover the clubs and after school care until six. The children who are there 8 until 6 are simply exhausted and that's that sadly.

TouchoftheTism · 23/12/2024 21:43

NiftyPeachDreamer · 23/12/2024 21:41

When would teachers do marking and lesson planning?

read my posts ffs. they do it each night on the living room floor whilst swearing at their whatsapp teacher group

Bethany83 · 23/12/2024 21:43

I'm not saying it is easy but when you have children it is very difficult to have both parents working long hours and something needs to give, reduced hours, change of job/career for a few years etc...

Waitingforspring81 · 23/12/2024 21:44

Private schools finish at 4pm and have 18 weeks holidays; do you have 18 weeks annual leave? Would you prefer that?

Schools should not be aligned with work; what sort of childhood is that? You have to arrange childcare whether you like it or not

Nextpleasee · 23/12/2024 21:44

@TouchoftheTism your username speaks volumes. Quite unpleasant.

ACynicalDad · 23/12/2024 21:45

To let people work 9-5 schools would need to be 8-6. I did not far off that in private school but the middle of the afternoon (in winter) and the end of the afternoon (in summer) was sports. I don't think most schools have the space to accomdate all kids out of the classroom and the cost for paying staff would be very tricky for schools/government.

ThisIcyHare · 23/12/2024 21:47

Itsr · 23/12/2024 19:54

@Housefullofcatsandkids ive just googled the private schools near me and the earliest finish is 4:30, other three at 6pm if you choose an extra curricular activity at no extra cost

This isn’t all lessons though! Lessons will finish at 3:30 or thereabouts with prep/sport afterwards. Teachers are more abundant, class sizes are smaller, and they have more support.

Mylovelygreendress · 23/12/2024 21:47

Itsr · 23/12/2024 19:28

It’s mostly mums at the school gates. Because the 3:20 finish worked well at a time when most women stayed at home.

now most women work, which means two parents working, why does school finish ar 3:20?! Yes I know there are after school classes etc but some don’t go on for too long and they also cost.

what actually is the reason why the school day isn’t aligned with a work day (like it is with most private schools!)

My DC were at school in the 80s/90s and I worked full time . No after school clubs so I paid someone to collect and care for the DC until I finished work as did my friends .
It’s certainly not a new thing that Mums work !

VacuumPacked · 23/12/2024 21:48

Edenmum2 · 23/12/2024 21:11

You want your kids to be stuck in school for 8 hours a day? Would you have enjoyed that?

I wouldn’t have felt ‘stuck’ - anything which prolonged the time before I had to return ‘home’ was fine by me.

My son was at school from 7.50 until 4pm with an hours journey either way, walk, local train, walk - home at 5 to more homework, left the house at 6.50am a long day but long holidays, 10 weeks in the summer.

I don’t believe he ever felt stuck - they are after all with friends and contemporaries during their school day.

DanceMumTaxi · 23/12/2024 21:51

School is not childcare. Also, teachers have a lot of work to do after the children leave. When do you expect this to be done? I really leave school before 5:30 and it’s often much later. Just use wrap around care like everyone else.

CheekyHobson · 23/12/2024 21:51

InWalksBarberalla · 23/12/2024 21:24

Maybe the government can start by teaching women to pick better men to procreate with. I'm not in the UK and there are many men at the school gates, couples use a combination of after school care, paid child care and staggering work hours around pick up and drop off's. There is no expectation that it's all the mums job to do it.

Maybe the government can start by teaching men to be genuinely equal partners and parents

Fixed that for you, babes.

Waitingforspring81 · 23/12/2024 21:53

Itsr · 23/12/2024 19:54

@Housefullofcatsandkids ive just googled the private schools near me and the earliest finish is 4:30, other three at 6pm if you choose an extra curricular activity at no extra cost

Because you are paying them 25k plus instead of the limited resources state schools have? Plus they have an additional 5 weeks annual leave which will end costing you more.

What country you live in? How can you even compare it? teachers and staff in the UK state system are over stretched . It is a miracle we still have children.

All private schools here finish at 4pm.

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