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Is this too much?

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Shirtskillme · 23/12/2024 11:02

So I broke up with my exh about 7 months ago and recently been casually speaking to a guy I met on a dating app. I wasn’t really looking for anything just a bit of fun. Anyway after we met up for a date he messages me every morning and night and also throughout the day. I am just not used to this as my exh was always out doing various things. I feel like he is too needy and wants to see me all the time, he has even bought me and the kids a Christmas present. Is it just that I am not used to it or is this a bit too much?

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TallulahBetty · 24/12/2024 09:03

andymary · 23/12/2024 14:06

Men just can't win either way can they.
They give you space - then it's a red flag because they don't care. They want to be with you - then it's a red flag because they care too much.

Found the incel.

Lurkingandlearning · 24/12/2024 10:14

While I think you should be able to be honest and say you only wanted sex / fun as @ForFunAmberDeer suggested, I don’t think that would be wise with someone who is already too full on. I don’t think someone who is already declaring their love for you would take that well.

Bend that truth a little and say you have realised you don’t want to be in a relationship at this time and do not want to continue contact with him.Wish him well and block him

katter · 24/12/2024 10:20

andymary · 23/12/2024 14:06

Men just can't win either way can they.
They give you space - then it's a red flag because they don't care. They want to be with you - then it's a red flag because they care too much.

The same things would be a red flag in women too.
Maybe not the being scared to end it giben the statistics.

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