Is this too much?

[Shirtskillme]

So I broke up with my exh about 7 months ago and recently been casually speaking to a guy I met on a dating app. I wasn’t really looking for anything just a bit of fun. Anyway after we met up for a date he messages me every morning and night and also throughout the day. I am just not used to this as my exh was always out doing various things. I feel like he is too needy and wants to see me all the time, he has even bought me and the kids a Christmas present. Is it just that I am not used to it or is this a bit too much?

Luckily my friend is a police officer. I just feel so stupid, I’m not an idiot I’m really not but I can’t believe I fucking did that

It will be fine, he will f off when he realises you aren't buying it

He said he would take the day off work tomorrow and treat me like a princess all day

Gross. I'd jump him just for that. Seriously just fuck him off. Way too much way too soon.

I know. I thought it was me being a bit cold but I shuddered at the thought.

Send him a message saying the relationship isn't what you want and that you're ending it.
Don't block him immediately, because it sounds like he'll just rock up to your door if you do. Speak to him by message only, no phone calls or face to face.
Don't believe any promises he'll change, that he'll back off or go at your pace.
Whatever he suggests, tell him no, you've made your decision.
Then, tell him you're now blocking him and do it.

Yes, too much. The constant contact is giving you the ick, so take heed.

Just send a text, neutral, this isn’t working for me, good luck etc and then block him.

Way too much. I'd get rid.

Men just can't win either way can they.
They give you space - then it's a red flag because they don't care. They want to be with you - then it's a red flag because they care too much.

He is love bombing you. Run, run like the fucking wind, and don't look back.

I would also bet everything I have that it's him that's a narcissist, not his wife.

Definitely more red flags than a communist convention 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩⛔

His "caring" is making the OP uncomfortable.
That's reason enough for to dump him. She wasn't put on this earth to salve and massage a man's ego.
Her opinion is valid regardless of what he thinks and wants.

He was hoping to be jumped all day....

Maybe if men would stop love bombing and acting like absolute weirdos then they could 'win'.

Are you hard of understanding? Do you not get normal social interaction?

Probably just male

Oh God, not "Morning beautiful, how did you sleep?" "Night gorgeous" etc etc plus multiple catch ups every single day? He would be straight in the bin. That shit annoys the Hell out of me.

He says those exact things 🤣🤣🤣

Is there also a bizarre interest in what you are having for lunch? So tedious 😅

I know 🙄 what are you doing, the same thing I was doing 30 mins ago 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I fear he is a ‘Nice Guy’.

You do?

What your thoughts so far? X

Yes the typical Nice Guy who seems normal and nice at first but then doesn’t respect boundaries, turns up randomly to your home, love bombs, stories about how crazy exes have used him in the past, but hes just such a nice guy. Until he doesn’t get what he wants, until you instil boundaries, until you don’t reciprocate his feelings. He will turn this all around so he is always the victim and why are women so awful to him when he’s such a nice guy?

Urgh. The Nice Guy is always so entitled.

This. I've just split up with one - sounds very much like the guy you're describing OP. Can pretty much guarantee its not his ex who's the narcissist.

Saying he's being pushing about the kids, that is a huge alarm bell ringing for me, very creepy, in the sea with him.