To ask how you know your ex wants you back

[Harriet89]

Do they always come back?

my ex seemed to get over our 17 year relationship really easily by going out with friends etc whilst I was a complete mess. I seem to be ok now but he keeps coming round asking me questions and delving into my life (we have 2 children) he also told me that he really likes a woman from work and she is so much better than me.

is this what they do? It has been almost 5 months and I am almost back to myself now and don’t cry at all anymore.

@Harriet89 in which case he's a manipulative fucker. Don't you think you'd be better off single? Or with someone who hasn't abandoned you? You deserve much better x

Please tell me you're not doing his washing for him?

No I do all the kids washing. He takes his to his sisters and yet I am apparently a free loader because I have kept the car we both paid for when we were together. Getting all their stuff ready takes so long and then he brings shed loads of washing back.

But often the grass is greener

Well good luck to him

He doesn't want you back. He just wants to mess with your head. And it's clearly working because you're posting on here about it.

The whole dynamic is toxic. All he wants is to manipulate you and make you unsettled, and you are playing into his hands.

Why would he want to mess with my head it doesn’t make any sense?

I don’t feel the need to rub in his face if I fancy somebody at work, it’s cruel and I would not discuss it with him.

They pretend to be the sort of guy you'd like to be with in the hopes you'll forget how rubbish they were or think they've changed.