To not let my sister bring her own meat on Christmas day!

[FelizNavidadAmiga]

First off, we are a strictly vegan household for moral reasons. I invited my sister for Christmas lunch as she is recently divorced and has nowhere else to go. I usually put on a magnificent spread with roast vegetables, tagine, stuffed peppers, vine leaves, falafel, home made hummus etc. My sister has just sent me a message saying she's going to bring her own chicken to cook. AIBU to say no way! I don't want chicken cooking in my nice clean vegan oven! Plus the smell makes me feel ill 🤢 I don't want to upset her as she's very sensitive at the moment but surely she can do without chicken for 1 day.

Just tell her that you dont allow meat in the house. But there is plenty of food and perhaps she can keep the chicken for another day.

Aren't you lovely! Hostess with the mostest, not.

It really doesn’t, @Matildahoney. As many people have explained many times on this thread - and as I think the vast majority of people know anyway - this isn’t an accurate comparison. Vegans can only eat vegan food. Meat eaters, unless they are literal cave dwellers, are not restricted to eating only meat. It’s just one part of their diet.

Meat eaters mostly also eat fish. Do you expect OP to provide a fish course as well, just because there are guests who eat it? Does she have to offer a cheeseboard as well as a pudding, just because her guests eat cheese? What about a fruit salad as well - after all, they eat fruit, don’t they?

CyranoDeBergerQuack You clearly know nothing about vegan food or vegan cooking.

She could bring her own oven trays and utensils. She could cook the chicken in a roasting bag and there would be little to no chance of it 'contaminating' anything of the OP's.

I suppose she would also have to bring her own plate!!!

Though I guess if she finds out her Dsis has been complaining about her on the internet, she may never want to darken her door again!

How am I being rude?

No, because you are misrepresenting her sister's single request - to bring chicken for herself.

You're making shit up now.

Vegans can eat any food. They choose not to.

You think your post was courteous and polite?

Most vegan food is not fake meat. Most vegan dishes are made with vegetables, tofu, nuts, grains, pulses, pasta etc.
My sibling became fully vegan about 6 years ago in their 70s and since then has had half their colon and appendix removed (impacted faeces) and, a year later, gall bladder removed. Doc said some digestive systems just can't cope with 'tofu, nuts, grains and pulses' all the time.

It isn’t!! If someone invited you around for a curry, would you say, “I’ll come over, but I shan’t be eating that - make me pasta instead”? Or would you see that as the rudeness it is?

An invitation is just that. It doesn’t have to be accepted. You can’t say “I’ll accept, but only on my terms”. THAT is being a tit.

I think I told it as it was.

How am I misrepresenting it? Some posters are trying to say OP should allow her sister to eat meat at her house because she’s a meat eater. I’m pointing out that meat is only one part of her sister’s diet. That’s a perfectly accurate representation.

Tell her to cook it first and bring it cut up, tbh , I’m veggie & I like having a Christmas dinner albeit vegetarian style
if you don’t mind me saying although yours sounds delicious it’s not Christmas dinner x

OPs family are having THEIR proper Christmas dinner which they have kindly invited her sister to join.
It is a bit rude to suggest that OPs meal choice isn't worthy of being a proper christmas dinner, whatever that means.

Would it be ok if she cooked her chicken at home and brought it to yours cooked? I understand that you don’t like the smell of meat cooking.
Your Xmas dinner sounds lovely but as I meat eater I would like some meat alongside what you are offering especially for Xmas dinner.

heaving with animals carcasses

And this right here, this immature, vulgar, crass response is exactly why vegans have the bad rep they have. Please grow up and stop acting like a 9 year old. FFS.

YABU for adding that you're vegan "for moral reasons." That just makes you sound really self-righteous and precious. And I say this as someone who agrees there are excellent moral reasons to be vegan! You could have just said "we're vegan." What a bizarre things to add.

But she's rude to suggest this.

I've been vegan in the past and don't dislike any of the items on your list but it seems a bit like picky bits/sides/picnic/buffet food. Do you have a main Christmas centrepiece in mind, like a big nut roast and piles of roast potatoes and gravy etc? If it was more like a vegan Christmas dinner she may feel less inclined to add roast meat. I can totally see why you don't want her to actually cook a chicken in your kitchen but I can also see why she feels she has to bring her own Christmas dinner.

I hate tagine, falafel and hummus..ate them when I had to..Jewish oh…but not with pleasure and most certainly not for Christmas. It would ruin my day, but even though I do eat meat, I would not expect to cook meat in a vegan household. I might bring something vegan I do like, but it’s unreasonable to bring meat.

Presumably the OP's sister knows that the family are vegan, so it wouldn't be a surprise that the request to bring a chicken to cook will be refused?

Mmmm love me some carcass 😬

OP, I'm neither vegan nor vegetarian but I think your Christmas spread sounds wonderful. I love middle eastern food. In fact, I'd like an invite please. I think your sister is being rude and silly. You are offering her hospitality on Christmas Day and, as a widow with no extended family, I know that's worth it's weight in gold. As a guest I wouldn't dream of asking to use someone's oven to cook my own food, whether they were vegan or not! Surely to god she can go without meat for one day under the circumstances?

She's definitely VVVU.
But I'd be wanting something like a nut roast, lasagne, Wellington or something in pastry, for that Christmas dinner feeling.

@BrightonFrock vegans choose to eat that way, no one is forced to. I choose to eat meat, I don't enjoy a
As an aside I have one sil who is vegan and one who is vegetarian and they both cater for meat eaters because they're reasonable human beings and would like the same courtesy extended to them.

your sister is being ridiculous and selfish. She must respect your values if she wants to come to your home for a meal. As someone else suggested, can’t she save her meat for the evening or eat it before she comes to you if she must have her dose of meat?