To not let my sister bring her own meat on Christmas day!

[FelizNavidadAmiga]

First off, we are a strictly vegan household for moral reasons. I invited my sister for Christmas lunch as she is recently divorced and has nowhere else to go. I usually put on a magnificent spread with roast vegetables, tagine, stuffed peppers, vine leaves, falafel, home made hummus etc. My sister has just sent me a message saying she's going to bring her own chicken to cook. AIBU to say no way! I don't want chicken cooking in my nice clean vegan oven! Plus the smell makes me feel ill 🤢 I don't want to upset her as she's very sensitive at the moment but surely she can do without chicken for 1 day.

Just because it's suitable it doesn't mean they like it!

One of my DGC is vegetarian. There's lots of vegan food they won't touch

And I'd certainly want to like my meal at Christmas

It’s not gung ho or “stroppy” to point out that nobody needs meat. They might like it, but that’s very different.

If you dislike vegan food and don’t want a meatless meal, you simply don’t accept an invitation from a strict vegan. Job done.

Hahaha 🤣

Why is it OPs responsibility to find her grown adult sister somewhere to go for Christmas just because said adult wants to eat chicken? She can stay at home and cook her own chicken or she can find her own alternative if she is unable to eat one vegan meal.

If she’s only coming for lunch surely she could have your offering for lunch then make her own dinner when she goes home?

Then turn down the invitation!!!

I would let my sister bring chicken which she already cooked in her own home to eat with the food I was offering. It's Christmas Day for her too and she's only asking for chicken not a whole turkey with pigs in blankets and stuffing. You could ask her to make sure her plate and cutlery go straight into the dishwasher afterwards and don’t contaminate anything of yours.

Having spent a Christmas Day with some vegan friends who kindly invited us over. I would be declining the invite.

Whilst I can cope without meat, I would not each much, if anything, of the menu that you are having

A very sensible suggestion.

Yanbu.
And technically, you are probably having a more traditional christmas meal than a roast anyway.

The 1970s are calling you @Balloonhearts

Of course

But not at all accommodating.

I'm assuming from all of this that the OP's house doesn't contain one single animal product

(are visitors allowed to wear leather shoes?)

See that I agree with. Just don't go. Problem solved.

It's the attacking other people that's not on. Some do need meat in their diet. If, like a pp, you have sensory needs or an eating disorder which means you can't eat other sources of protein then you would become very ill without it. Yet on a SEN thread people would be tripping over themselves to insist that someone's sensory restrictions are a need, not a preference.

You do realise it's just one meal?

See. Insults as the default. When do the schools go back?

My friend and her family are vegan, I am not, I would not even consider taking or especially cooking meat in her home! I confess to taking some milk for my coffee though..

Some do need meat in their diet.

At every single meal?

As@Fairislesweater suggested, the sister could very easily eat meat when she got home that evening. She could do herself a big fry-up for breakfast too. She won’t collapse from malnutrition because she ate vegetarian meze for lunch.

You talk about attacking people but you're quite happy for posters who disagree with you to be attacked. Or so it seems to me. I'm sorry but it's you who is the child and it's you who needs to grow up.

Yeah and I could manage or just politely decline the invite but if there is literally nothing there they can eat its a bit unfair to have a pop at them.

Yup. Both are attributable to western diets - omnivorous or vegan - relying on air miles to transport food.

That's my beef with the OP - she thinks that her food choices are more moral than her sister's. THey're not.

Where do I say I'm happy for anyone to be attacked? I literally stuck up for someone about 6 pages ago.

But there’s absolutely zero suggestion that the OP’s sister cannot eat this food. She just wants chicken.

Of course
But not at all accommodating.

Well, that’s what’s on offer. If the sister doesn’t like the offer, she can vote with her feet.

Sorry should have been clearer, I am talking about the pp who was getting attacked for saying she couldn't eat most vegan food. Not ops sister. Ops sister should just decline or eat before she comes.

Can she precook the chicken and bring a box of it sliced she can heat if she is that intent on eating chicken? Just say you can't have meat cooking in your housr but welcome to bring precooked?