To not let my sister bring her own meat on Christmas day!

[FelizNavidadAmiga]

First off, we are a strictly vegan household for moral reasons. I invited my sister for Christmas lunch as she is recently divorced and has nowhere else to go. I usually put on a magnificent spread with roast vegetables, tagine, stuffed peppers, vine leaves, falafel, home made hummus etc. My sister has just sent me a message saying she's going to bring her own chicken to cook. AIBU to say no way! I don't want chicken cooking in my nice clean vegan oven! Plus the smell makes me feel ill 🤢 I don't want to upset her as she's very sensitive at the moment but surely she can do without chicken for 1 day.

Bringing meat that is already cooked would be reasonable I think.

I'd let her bring cooked chicken. I understand you don't want chicken cooked at your home but I think it's fine for her to eat some chicken she's already cooked.

Nope. Her home, her morals, her choice. And l see you’re now laughing at all my posts too. Are you 12 ?

We are vegetarian , but have a cat , so meat is in our house .
But would I like my oven or pots and pans used for meaty things - no .
Tell her no , but if she wants to bring a plate with the meat already on it , you can serve up her food on that .
Or just tell her you are a meat free home.

Also, for all the people saying it doesn't sound like enough, where are the carbs, where's the protein, why don't you make this instead - the OP hasn't given her entire menu, hasn't asked for it to be critiqued, will almost certainly be providing lovely bread, flatbreads, rice, couscous etc.

Of course she’s imposing her views on there - her sister, for a start. And then MN. Saying that veganism is moral certainly suggests that she considers meat eating to be immoral.

Fair enough, she doesn’t want to eat meat, and doesn’t want it in her house or oven, I get that. But to say this is a moral stance is insufferably arrogant.

Is there any need to add a reason why though? Just say you're vegan, or vegetarian. And don't eat meat. Can't it just be left at that.

I'm pretty much a veggie and don't really like preparing meat. I don't think I'm better than anyone else who does or doesn't eat meat though. I'm making veggie christmas food for me, meat for family plus a family member is also bringing meat.

I'm not sure what me not particularly liking christmas has to do with this?
Did your wee rant make you feel better?

Morals? 🫣🫣🫣🫣

I think that's a good compromise.

She's accepted an invitation to a vegan household, so I'm not sure how she could expect to cook meat in your household.

Could you cope if she brought some pre-cooked cold meat, or would you rather not have it in your house?

I'd happily eat what you're offering by the way, sounds lovely.

My best friend has been vegetarian for 30 years, I would never expect to eat meet in her house.

Maybe she just doesn't get the "rules" on this one so just tell her.

Some of these posts are hilarious.

Everybody who is telling OP her food is boring and "big standard" - what the fuck should she be serving? Rare orchids found only in one secret location in the Amazon rainforest?

It's just food, isn't it? Maybe she is a good cook and it tastes really nice? How can you tell how "magnificent" or otherwise her spread is just by looking at it written down.....

(Having said that, I also don't know anyone in real life who refers to their own cooking as "a magnificent spread", so I do wonder whether OP is on the wind up.....)

Funniest of all, those posters who suggest that if you feel a bit bored by the idea of a meal someone is serving you, it's normal practice to take a dish or two along with you to jazz it up a little..... Seriously? You do this? "Sorry, nan, your foods a bit boring for me, I'll just get my tupperwares out...."

Amazing.

OP, if you are real, next time don't tell her the menu? But if you do, just point out it's fucking weird to take uncooked chicken, or indeed any sort of chicken, to a dinner party, unless you have been specifically asked to.

Sounds delicious! I'd prefer it to the Christmas dinner. If she'd said I'll bring a little bit of cheese to have on side, or some smoked salmon, or even a few slices of parma ham, I'd let it slide. However the whole having to cook chicken in my kitchen with my oven and utensils, I'd say no too.

@wombat1a
"On the other hand if you did baked potatoes for them and gave them cheese (I know its not vegal but its veggie) and baked beans"

So the OP's home made Middle Eastern food isn't very feast like but a baked potato's with beans is?

This thread is insane!!

This post has generally made me laugh out loud....

The image of someone, sitting there alone with their party hat on and a satisfied smile on their face, biting into a drumstick......

That poster must really love chicken!

I’ve already explained what l meant by ‘morals’. Not big on comprehension are you ?

Your menu sounds absolutely bloody fantastically delicious!!!

If she feels 'deprived' 😮 her bring let her bring some roasted chicken or whatever.

Judging by the replies I think a fair few MNers would consider a jacket potato with beans a magnificent meal.

Oh, I understand what you wrote.
It's just questionable to decide someone's morals merely on what they currently eat.

Can I just say not being mean here. But if she brought her own cooked meat, I think that’s fair enough.

if she were cooking for you all on Xmas day, she would of course, provide vegan alternatives. At least she has offered to bring her own, just stipulate that it is cooked and there is no issue

Do you think Hindus, Jews and Muslims are insufferably arrogant if requiring those in their homes to abide by their dietary rules?

Having some history and an imaginary friend doesn't make your views more or less moral.

That's what I would expect. And use her own plate. But honestly no meant Christmas Day isn't for me so I probably wouldn't go if I couldn't do that. Yes yes I know it's sad I can't go without meat for a day, I actually can... just not this day