AIBU to think good friends remember birthdays

[Elizo]

YABU - everyone is different
YANBU - I would expect this

Yes I would expect this. I have all birthdays on the calendar, doesn't mean I'm not late with cards/prezzies but in theory I shouldn't be.

Unless you are organising a party or day out for your birthday, and no one shows up, you shouldn't care

This is my experience too. I have circle of very close good friends. One of them always remembers my birthday, one of them always forgets. However, I know that in a heartbeat both of them would be there for me in a second if I needed support or help with anything.

Thats the most important thing to me and I love both of them.

You will get told you are unreasonable on here however I always remember friends birthdays and most of my friends are the same! I have long term friends birthdays etched into my brain by now. I always put birthdays on the calendar though, including friends children’s birthdays! I also always send cards. I’m aware this isn’t the norm though nowadays (sadly).

YABU- I will buy things for my friends all year round if I see something they like, show up when they need etc but ask me to remember a date and I am fooked.

It's an adhd thing, I will bring you pebbles through the year when I think of you

I am not even sure which month my best fruend’s birthday is.

My friends and I often forget one another's birthdays, but we still come through in more important ways. We still know that we could call one another in the middle of the night and they'd listen. We celebrate wins together, we're miserable together. We used to do it when we were teenagers but life got in the way a bit, so our priorities shifted.

We don't really do gifts unless it's a milestone and there's a party.