To not want friends dog in my house

[Niceeyes]

i have a lovely friend who has a Labrador dog and although I love dogs, I have my own smaller dog, I am not keen on her dog.

The dog hasn’t been trained and jumps up on me and almost topples me over when I visit her. It try’s to sniff your crotch and bottom too. It has excessive saliva all over its mouth and tries to lick me but the main thing is that my friend barely ever washes him. So he really does smell. We’ve been on walks where he’s rolled in fox poo and then he wanders back into her house and sits on her sofa. She will only cold hose him down outside or use dry shampoo…
I patted him on the head yesterday and my hand stank!

the reason I’m mentioning all of the above is because she wants to stay with me for a few nights in January ( her husband is away and she wants the company), and she doesnt have dog care so I know she expect me to take her dog in too. She only lives a 30min drive away.

the dogs both get on very well but I do not want her smelly dog in my house, she doesn’t wipe him down after a muddy walk either so I know my furniture will be ruined

what should I do? Love my friend just not her dog

Just say no. But arrange to spend some time with her not in your home if she finds being alone hard?

I am a huge dog lover, obsessed with them… but I would not have your friend’s dog in my house!
I have my own dogs but I don’t invite other dogs here, for a variety of reasons. I just say to friends that bringing their dogs “wouldn’t work for my dogs”. Can you do similar? Say your dog enjoys seeing their dog but having him in their own space at home would be unsettling for them?

You have to say so.

"You're very welcome to stay. I hope you won't be offended but I can't have Wuffles in my house. It's too much."

You don't have to give a reason. Just say no. Any reason you give will be an open door to her making an excuse/promise.

It's very awkward with people who insist on inflicting their stinky dog on other people. They are rhino-skinned and think their darling dog is the most important creature on earth.

Just say no.

Honestly if she’s a good friend I’d just tell her that her dog smells and is too boisterous for indoors. If she’s completely oblivious to this and insists on bringing it everywhere, she’ll end up losing social invitations left right and centre, so as a good friend, helping her to see that is the right thing to do.

Sorry friend as much as I love you there simply isn't space in our home for your ddog...

She needs to learn how to breathe on her own for a few days without husband. Pathetic.

Just say you will meet her in the day instead, she doesn't need to stay with you.

She must have no sense of smell at all if the dog rolls in fox poo and she lets it back into the house. I was almost sick in the open air when my dog did it. I love big stupid labs, and I don't care if they're a bit smelly, but no way would eau de fox poo be entering my house.

Just be very honest. It's not fair of her to impose on you with a very smelly large dog that isn't well trained. Why is she worried about staying in her own house for a few days while her husband is away? That sounds like an unusual level of anxiety, surely?

I'm not sure about this but I thought you could get hot hoses installed for cleaning your dogs. Anyway I digress

No I wouldn't want the dog in my house either. Fox anything stinks to high heaven

Wet dog which has then dried is not an appealing odour either

I think you need to be honest with her.

If she is such a good friend, surely you can just have a conversation with her.

Just tell her? Say she’s welcome but she will have to find alternative care for the dog for the duration.

Say you'll go to her for a night instead as her dog is a bit too stinky for your house? Dogs are happier in their own houses anyway.

I would absolutely not have a smelly boisterous large dog in my home. I'd tell her that.

It sounds revolting, like a walking cesspit.

Not a chance.
My close friend has a gorgeous clean dog but I don't have a dog and don't want dogs in my house.
There is no issue whatsoever.
Good friends should be able to say these things respectfully to each other with out issue.

Thanks everyone, just anxious about telling her no… although she would have no problem telling me not to bring mine 🤣

I would not expect my dogs to be welcomed or even tolerated in someone else’s house.
The only time this happens is with dog owner friends to whom we return the acceptance of their dogs.
Fortunately mine don’t roll in poo and don’t jump up but I’m pretty sure that they probably do smell at times.
My big dog is not allowed on sofas anywhere.
If my friends said can you leave the dog at home then I’d absolutely be ok with that. I’d just see them during the day or on walks.

Apparently it’s called nose blindness or olfactory fatigue. Some dog owners get so used to their dog’s smelliness that they don’t realise how much the creature stinks.

Not unreasonable at all, just tell her.

Just say she is welcome but not the dog. It is your dogs home as well and while they get on outside of the home it may be different on home turf.

Can you go and stay with her?

I have a dog. I wouldn’t allow my dog into the house after he’d rolled in fox poo. I’d have no problem telling a friend her dog isn’t welcome unless she gives him a bath before visiting. Yuk!

The issue isn't the dog, as the Op could go and stay at the friend's house and take her dog.

The issue is an adult not wanting to stay in their own home whilst another adult is away.