To not want friends dog in my house

[Niceeyes]

i have a lovely friend who has a Labrador dog and although I love dogs, I have my own smaller dog, I am not keen on her dog.

The dog hasn’t been trained and jumps up on me and almost topples me over when I visit her. It try’s to sniff your crotch and bottom too. It has excessive saliva all over its mouth and tries to lick me but the main thing is that my friend barely ever washes him. So he really does smell. We’ve been on walks where he’s rolled in fox poo and then he wanders back into her house and sits on her sofa. She will only cold hose him down outside or use dry shampoo…
I patted him on the head yesterday and my hand stank!

the reason I’m mentioning all of the above is because she wants to stay with me for a few nights in January ( her husband is away and she wants the company), and she doesnt have dog care so I know she expect me to take her dog in too. She only lives a 30min drive away.

the dogs both get on very well but I do not want her smelly dog in my house, she doesn’t wipe him down after a muddy walk either so I know my furniture will be ruined

what should I do? Love my friend just not her dog

My daughter has a boisterous young lab. I now have a small dog. She adores her dog but always asks me if I am happy for her to bring him to.my small house. I think about the tail flapping at 100mph and his excitement and nosiness and decline mostly. She doesn't get offended and understands.
It's pretty inconsiderate of your friend to be honest to expect you to accommodate her smelly chap.

If the stench is the only issue then insist she gives him a bath before hand. Otherwise just say no. I have a labrador and she is terrified of the bath. I have no idea why. She doesn't get as many baths as I would like to give her but would not expect anyone else to put up with her in their house or on their furniture.

The problem then, is not the dog or your friend, it’s your own anxiety about laying down boundaries.

You need to get comfortable saying no, or saying that things ‘don’t suit you’, or that it’s ‘not convenient’ etc otherwise you’re going to be a seething, people-pleasing doormat all your life.

Make it a New Year’s resolution.