.. more was I unreasonable, coz Dh thinks I was and isn't talking to me...

[shrinkingsagpuss]

About 6 weeks ago, one of DH's work friends emailed to say they were organising a big meal out, and when could we all make it?

I didn't want to go, but forwarded the emal to DH.

They all have pots of money, they all know each other as they all worked together (DH'd and DW's). I'm the newbie.

DH came home and said it was booked for the 2nd (tomorrow). Its my first wek back at work after 10 months mat leave, so I'll be knackered. He didn't even ask me, he jsut agreed to go. I told him he'd have to find a babysitter for our two DC's.

This week, suddenyl he says, hvae we got a sitter? Well... no, as I told him to get one. I am now big bad DW. Iapparently I'm being deliberately obstructive. We are supposed to be meeting these friends about 20 miles away to eat at 7pm. My DC's won't be in bed by 6.30, they are barely out of the bath by then. We have no-one who can bath them and put them to bed, and I'm not preapred to pay a starnger from "sitters" to do it - not on a first time meeting anyway, it would be very unfair on the DC's.

AIBU?

I am fuming on your behalf here!
He agreed the date without consulting you but expected you to come, failed utterly to think that a babysitter would be needed, failed to get one even when you reminded him of this, and has not discussed wih you the issues relating to trying to find a suitable babysitter for two small DCs at bedtime.
YANBU at all.
And then it seems he will "punish" you by sulking.
The key thing seems to me to be that you can't go due to the lack of a suitable babysitter.
And ignore any immature behaviour over the weekend.

I have said to him that if we ate, we could still go to te show, providing we have a babysitter.

I haven't said I will find a sitter.

I have just spent my evenign tidying and ironing, while he's been to the gym... and now the pub. To be fair, I get my chance to go out too, so.. my point? He will expect me to have dealt with the babysitting thing tonight.

I could get a "sitter" , but if I'm leaving the DC's with a stranger, I'd rather be down the round in town, not 20 miles away if needed. Luckily the DC's are lovey, and once they're in bed, we rarely hear a peep til the wee hours (lovely DD bless her).

The tickets for the show have already been bgouht - apparently its a comedy club thing. So could be a relaxing hoot. No idea, never been to one before.

If DH can come up with an acceptable solution then obviously I'll go, and be happy etc... manic smile emoticon