To tell sick son he can’t come over?

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My 20 year old son is in university about half an hour away from my house, he has his own apartment there, he moved out at the start of the summer. He’s been doing a placement near us and has just messaged to say he’s getting a taxi over to mine as it’s closest because he’s started throwing up uncontrollably..

Its a week before Christmas, I’ve still got loads to do, we’re a house of 6 people including two small children and to be frank I don’t want a stomach bug coming in at this point. Would I be the worst mum in the world to tell him to go home instead???

Agree. It's normal to want your parents when you are struggling. I'm in my 50s and injured myself a few days ago. My mum and dad came with meds even though I have a husband at home. They wanted to see me and I wanted to see them. It gave me comfort.

He has his own flat, he should have stayed there. You could have sent him a delivery of food, drink and medicines.

I think he’s been very selfish.

Where'd you get that idea from?

https://www.dettol.co.uk/household-disinfection/everyday-cleaning/dettol-surface-cleanser-spray-500-ml/

This. I would want my young adult child to know they could come home when unwell. MN is weird, once you turn 18 ‘that’s it’.

I would want to look after my son in this situation, he sounds very unwell.
I would cordon off the area. Dettol at the ready. He is only young, and he sounds like he needs some support.

Also ensure good ventilation. Norovirus is predominantly spread via touch but I believe there is a very small airborne element too when someone is actively vomiting.

I understand both sides.
But I also know that if it were my daughter, I'd be complaining and talking about the potential sick house during Christmas while taking care of my daughter if she were on her own otherwise.

Despite absolutely understandable stress re- week before xms,6 in house. def d NOT want anyone smited.
i dont think id genuinely be able to refuse ds entry. even if all logic suggested should.hes your boy.

Ignoring the issue.....is he supposed to get on the train to go home or walk a few hours?

How does he get there? It's not local

It’s horrendous being unwell on your own but you don’t want your household to catch it.

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It’s horrendous being unwell on your own but you don’t want your household to catch it

He’s part of the household, who happens to be staying elsewhere whilst studying.

Can’t help wondering whether some of these replies would be less harsh were it a daughter and not a son.

I would have gone to fetch him poor lad

OP said he moved out. He has his own flat.

He doesn't have a room at OP's anymore so he has permanently moved out.

He's 20. He needs to go home and hunker down til it passes!

I'd let him in too. Keep your distance when here

It doesn’t. I thought it was common knowledge that disinfectant doesn’t do anything to norovirus. Bleach all the way.

Is he better today OP

Hiya, thanks for asking x

He’s a bit better today than yesterday but still quite unwell. He hasn’t been sick since yesterday but still has little appetite, he says he has a huge headache, is drinking a lot and has pretty much spent the whole time since he got here yesterday sleeping. He’s staying again tonight and has just managed some salad bits and an apple.. he just seems to want crunchy foods that have a lot of water. He’s got soluble painkillers (he can’t manage tablets) and lucozade and dioralyte so we’re muddling through. I’m glad he’s home and I’m feeling pretty rubbish about my initial panicky reaction yesterday, not that he knows anything about it. No signs so far of anyone else in the household feeling unwell, touch wood.

Of course I'd have my son home. Wouldn't think twice.

Let us know in 48 hours if you come down with anything. Fingers crossed for you!

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I'm intrigued now 😁

Both my kids have lived away and been through sickness, colds, Covid amongst other bugs. Both have stayed put as to not pass anything on (their decision). I would have looked after him in his flat tbh