How would you feel with him doing this? It is not normal is it?

[Bluebelnel]

Guy I have been seeing has a habit of not replying to messages for hours/days or not at all. I have spoken to him about this and he seemed to understand. Hours I can understand if he is busy etc. However, we were arranging to meet up so I messaged him a day that I could do and asked if it worked for him too. He did not reply and I did not chase it up this time either. He had seen the message by the time/day it was meant to be. I then messaged him and told him that our conversation about this was obviously pointless. Again he read and did not reply.

What are your thoughts on this?
It has irritated me and it's made me look at him as a little boy playing games. AIBU?
I feel that he wants a reaction.

He is late 40s, professional etc.
I know for sure he is definitely single/not married etc incase anyone mentions this.

How would you deal with this?

He's just not that fussed about you. I'd leave it

The first reply nails it. Sorry OP.

I wouldn't. It's rude. Dump . . .

How long have you been seeing him for? It doesn’t sound like he’s that invested in seeing you, sorry OP. I’d deal with it by ending it and moving in. I know it’s a lot easier for someone outside the situation to say that, but you deserve someone who’s excited to be making plans with you.

He's just not into you...

End it move on

I've heard men say that the "slow fade" is their tactic to dump someone if they're too chicken to actually do it. Eventually the other person will get frustrated and do it for them. Sorry OP.

I agree with above PP (sorry). I have another thread going about how my current date texted asking if I wasn't interested because I hadn't responded to a text she'd sent at midnight (when I was asleep) by 10am the next day. In my case it was because I was busy and the text was just chatty, not making an arrangement to meet. I am interested in her so would never leave it until the proposed time for a next date without so much as a response. That's just rude.

To quote Ariana Grande: "Thank u, next"

U can’t do much aside from block and move on

He reads and simply doesn't reply? How frustrating and rude

Hes not into you, he's not arsed.

He’s bad mannered and isn’t really arsed about seeing you. There’s nothing more to it really, is there?

Don't text him and if he texts you just say - new self-respect who dis?

Stop wasting your time.

How would you deal with this?

I'd chuck him back. Dick is not in short supply.

I know someone who put up with this sort of thing for 10 years.He couldn't reply because he was probably with domeone else.Don't put up with this it's not kind behaviour to ignore someone.

He is just not that in to you but too polite to ghost. Move on.

So he didn't reply to the message arranging a day to meet and that day passed?

Why did you even bother to message him again? He obviously doesn't give a shit.

You told him his communication isn't good enough, he then hasn't communicated at all? I'm thinking he's ghosting you.

Block, block, block!!

Yeah, let him go. If he was keen he’d be making plans. Loads of blokes are like this on OLD. It’s depressing really.

He's not really bothered, is he? You can see that without any advice from anyone else.
You can carry on wasting time on him or just get ion with your life. Simple.

This^
and I wouldn’t notify him about your decision I would just stop messaging/replying to
him.

Ugh. He’s rude, and not that into you. Move on.

Agree… when I was much younger, single and immature I did this on occasion to guys I was seeing when I wasn’t very interested (not proud of it).

I wasn’t worth their effort tbh and this guy doesn’t sound like he is worth yours either

I know its frustrating OP but i would leave him to it!
Hes made his feelings clear by leaving you on read.
If he was interested he would message you back.
This isn't a reflection on you, it's on him!

Hes not interested.