What goes around comes around?

[iwasntexpectingthatoops]

I have name changed for this.

Roughly 7 years ago you lot helped me when my DH left me after 20 years. He was having an affair.

The other woman took it upon herself to be extremely hateful towards me. Stalked me via social media, terrorised myself and my family. She ended up with a criminal record and restraining order (2 years after the split)
She took great delight letting me know she had "won my man". I didn't even know we were having a competition

He never paid me any child maintenance, left us destitute. He is self employed.

Well, he's done exactly the same to get. Left her with her kids for another woman, she had nothing. No money, no home, nothing. Now she wants to befriend me and go after him for his money. Is this woman insane?

Well anyway, aibu if I literally don't give a shit and don't feel sorry for her one bit?

Ah, the karma bus has turned up. Bit late, as usual, but it always comes in the end. How fabulous that this isn’t your shit any more x

Not sure I could resist in replying. Probably something along the lines of “Goodness that is shocking! Isn’t karma a bitch!”

Just block..life too short and she did you a favour getting rid of rubbish. Not your problem.

Block and move on. I take it to mean there are no connections between you really anymore now they aren’t together. She sounds completely unhinged. Keep your dignity and don’t let her drag you down to her level.

I'd have blocked her ages ago. Imagine having that much cheek, honestly.

Stalked me via social media, terrorised myself and my family. She ended up with a criminal record and restraining order (2 years after the split)
Don't engage at all, don't reply, say nothing.
Has the restraining order now lapsed?

You don't want any contact at all with them given the history.

Just completely ignore her. Why would you even engage with someone who was so hateful to you? She sounds like a nutter so sending a sarky reply will just set her off again.

I'd be tempted to see if it would be possible to get an extension to that restraining order. How was she able to contact you again?

This brings me so much hope ! Amazing 😂

And actually, I agree with this.

Sorry I haven't responded. I'm on my works night out.

I can't message her as she's blocked on everything, as is my ex. The woman is unhinged, she would sit at the bottom of my drive thinking my ex was with me when he was at work.

I have no idea why my ex stayed with her. Obviously he had tried repeatedly to get back with me throughout the years but I could never.

She's contacted me through a new Facebook page she has started. I haven't blocked it yet or replied. I think I will just block and ignore.

My daughter told me she's already harassing the new girlfriend through social media and calling her workplace

@MumOfOneAllAlone I think I will, I don't want to go through all that again.

In court she pled guilty to the charges, she got community service and a fine. She was found with hundreds of payg SIM cards, had hundreds of fake Facebook and instagram accounts,

This is a woman I had never once met, I didn't even know about her until I started getting the rspca and takeaway delivery's at my door. Then I was getting messages via social media threatening me and calling me names. It was hellish for years

Now she will do the same to this other woman I guess

Screenshot the vile messages she sent you.

Send them back to her and ask her why she doesn't think the same still applies?

This has made my day!

Ignore her and smile on the inside. ❤️

Well let’s not blame invisible external forces like ‘karma’. This is a cunt of a serial cheater who has left a trail of devastation, especially where his children are concerned. He is to blame for all of the choices that have damaged the op and this other woman, however batshit and criminal her behaviour.

What an absolute psycho!! Yeah, please just report her, it's the perfect statement to her and the best way to protect your family!

Some men like the feeling of being a 'saviour' and i wonder if he felt like a king for dealing with her issues 🙄

That new woman has no idea what she's let herself in for but you're well out of it! Your kids are fortunate to have a mum who never threw in the towel like you x

I'd be tempted to message her back saying isn't karma a bitch 😏 but the sensible option given that she's batshit crazy is to block and ignore!

I'm presuming the non molestation/restraining order term has lapsed now op? Shame. You could've got her arrayed for breach of a court order. My ex did the same and I too great delight in informing the police he'd contacted me whilst under a non-mol order.

Block her. Don’t respond. Report the contact to the police even though the restraining order is not valid anymore.

Is the restraining order still valid?

if so, don’t engage straight to the police.

even if it has lapsed I’d be inclined to ignore her. If she keeps up contacting you go to the police and get the order reinstated.

That’s not being the bigger person it’s just being false….

Block her. You needed a restraining order for this woman. Ignore her.

Silence is the best response and just be glad karma has been served

@CandyLeBonBon yes it has lapsed. I've now blocked her but if she starts again I will request a new injunction.

The woman isn't normal, the kids have told me she's doing something similar to their dad. Not my problem anymore thankfully