I was reluctant to post this as I'm aware I may come across badly but I'm interested in hearing somebody else's perspective.
I'm a few months in with a new man who seems to be overly involved with his ex and her chaotic life.
They have 1 DS together age 10 but they haven't been an item since the little boy was under a year old, he says.
He was given sole custody 2 years ago because she has substance abuse issues and mental health problems, all of that is true, but he always seems to be involving himself in her drama.
She has made endless false allegations against him (and loads of other people) whilst she was unwell so you'd think he'd have the sense to keep his distance somewhat.
She has recently being taken to court by social services to remove another child from her care (different dad) and somehow the bloke I'm seeing has managed to insert himself into that aswell. Phonecalls back and forth with social services. On the phone to her friends about it. It's all I've heard about for the past 2 days.
He was ringing his ex about it all yesterday and now he has text me tonight at 9.30pm saying she has called him up on the phone crying about it and saying she can't breath.
He's saying he's worried she's going to kill herself. I just told him to phone in a welfare check then.
But I'm thinking.. why are you telling me all of this? Why is she calling you anyway? Why are you so involved?
It all feels a bit weird and codependant to me and I'm not sure I want anything to do with all of this. I have children of my own.
Am I being unreasonably harsh here? What would you think of this?