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To resigned from job?

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chrissy886 · 12/12/2024 14:18

I came back to work from maternity leave last week and the hours, times and days that were agreed have since been moved around so much and not accommodating to my childcare arrangements.

Manager would call and text even out of hours which I found quite stressful and always wanted to push the time back like for example a 5pm -8pm start (when partner would get back from work) start was agreed and now all of a sudden she wanted to change it to 10am and pressuring me to start when the team starts (I work form home).
It caused havoc.

My child is teething, having sleep regression and I am exhausted to be honest with the lack of sleep on top of dealing with her constant change of plans.

I have had a bad cold this weekend I called sick yesterday and she wouldn't stop calling.
I emailed HR this morning to advise them that I would be leaving immediately as it just didn't seem to be working.
Have I acted rationally or was it the right thing to do?

OP posts:
Catoo · 19/12/2024 00:16

You have a good case for constructive dismissal. And you might have to go down that route if they try and claim back any maternity pay you received.

That aside, well done for resigning from a shit job that you hated.

Good luck with your new enterprise. You won’t regret it.

💐

ladyamy · 19/12/2024 05:29

Samamfia · 18/12/2024 18:33

Constructive dismissal is when conditions are made so unpleasant for someone that they feel they have to resign. It doesn’t mean actual dismissal

Ah ok! Thanks, didn’t know that.

FatFiatMultiplaWhopper · 19/12/2024 06:33

DepartingRadish · 17/12/2024 06:28

You've said partner so I'm assuming this means you are not married.

Do not be a stay at home parent unless you are married. Do not work part time either. Taking on this level of financial risk is insane. You need to marry to protect yourself as you're taking the hit to your earnings and future pension. Or go back to full time work.

This. Please pay attention to it.

Namechangey23 · 19/12/2024 07:34

If we let employers get away with pulling these stunts they will just continue to do them and more women will be penalised for going on maternity leave. Employers need to be held to account and shamed for their shitty behaviour or this kind of behaviour hits them in the wallet so they don't try it again!

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 19/12/2024 08:21

If hours are agreed in writing. Just say no.

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 19/12/2024 14:28

If you don't need to be working rn then I'd say you've done the best thing for you. Irrational...? Maybe to others but to you absolutely not because it was causing you stress that you really don't need.
Sleep deprivation and hormones and baby is a challenge in itself without a stressful job/stressful work people.
Enjoy the festive season with your loved ones and think about work next year x

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