To think you should leave the room with your screaming baby?

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DS nativity today, 120 kids in the performance.

Throughout 75% of it, there were two babies (aged around 12 months) that were screaming and crying. It made it impossible to hear what the children were saying, and it essentially ruined the whole thing.

AIBU to think they should have left the room with them? I'm so cross for the children as they've worked so hard, just for crying babies to drown out their voices.

Then unfortunately that's a challenge for them as parents to manage. Most of us who have more than one child need to navigate this dynamic. Many of us have to find ways to help our children feel confident. To ruin the experience of other children and parents is not an acceptable or proportionate way to do that. Individual needs to not trump those of a group.

Ours are a couple of year groups so they are a lot of children

Children are asked to does up for their lines which they do

They just do multiple performances so all parents who want to can watch

Op yanbu, what a pity

This what they did at both DDs and DSs school. Said siblings were welcome but if they got upset could they be taken out for a little while to calm down.
Thankfully I only had to take a sibling twice and they were 2 and 3 but I can see it would be rubbish for parent and child if they have to leave but it's selfish not to.

Unfortunately, the kind of selfish parent who refuses to take a screaming child out of a performance is not one who'd take a blind bit of notice of the Head "reminding" everyone at the beginning.
Their wants trump everyone else's.

They definitely should have left. I have an 19 month old and was at his sister theatre group show Saturday evening he cried on 2 occasions, one I quitened him quickly, the other he was so tired he wouldn't settle so I stood up and walk out with him and came back when he was quiet. Kids and adults all work so hard on these things and the parents want to hear the children not my shouting child! Be respectful of thag

My kids school do this, siblings are welcome, but if they get noisy take them through there..points to door. It should be obvious, but at least it sets a boundary!

Can’t quite believe the posters trying to justify the behaviour of the selfish pricks with the screaming baby.

I thought it was common to have a nativity play for KS1 and KS2. Usually Year 6 will have the main roles and other classes dress up as a sheep, shepherd etc and everyone sings. Bun fight? Children aren't going to act like really drunk angry women who fight.

We weren't allowed to take younger siblings for this reason!

It is completely ridiculous to try and get 120 kids in a 'play'.
There is roughly 10 people in a nativity, tops
Not everyone has to be on stage. It's pathetic

Can’t imagine year 6 doing a nativity! cringe they are far too old. Our old primary did it really well. Reception to year 2 they did a class song in costume. Year 3 was the key year and children were roles / narrators in the proper nativity. Year 4 onwards there was a Christmas concert for the children that chose to take part. Worked really well.

I have a really clear memory of kicking off as a young child at my older DB's school play. DM picked me up, dumped me in the car (which was parked about 500m from the school - not in the car park) and went back in to watch the rest of the performance. I can still remember banging on the windows and screaming as she walked off.

Imagine someone doing that today!

So ruin the experience for the entire rest of the class and all the other parents just to keep one child happy? That is totally unreasonable and unfair.

I've just come back from chaperoning at a nativity play with around 100 cast members. Most of them weren't kids though.
We did have a baby crying for part of it, but his (her) surrogate parents did take Jesus out and swap for the substitute (doll) until Jesus was calm enough to come back on stage (where he went to sleep in Mary's arms). It did get a chuckle when they said "be quiet - he's sleeping" while he (she) was screaming her head off into Mary's mike though.

It’s really selfish and bad parenting to keep a child screaming in the audiance. The parent/carer should have gone out of the room with the child.

They should.

Former primary teacher here!
When our pupils performed their Christmas plays, it was always requested by the Headteacher that little ones weren’t brought into performances. A special performance was put on that younger siblings could attend. Whilst performing, the children use each other as cues to say their own lines and if there is a lot of noise from the audience, they’re unable to hear their ‘feeder’ line from their friends, which can end in utter chaos. I know that for the teachers and the children, a huge amount of work has gone in beforehand and it’s a great shame if they can’t do their very best on the day.