“You sound like a great mum/aunt/nan” etc.

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i feel like I’m constantly reading comments such as “you sound great” “I bet you’re a lovely mum” “you’re doing a fab job op” etc when honestly I feel it’s unnecessary and almost condescending.

yet posters seem to be congratulating op on doing a fabulous job.

eg.

i bought my dog a new coat. Aibu for buying him a green felt one and now he looks likes a mobile pool table

omg op you sound like a brilliant owner and really responsible I bet your pooch loves you to the moon and back. I wish I’m reincarnated as your dog when I die.

aibu

Do you not find it’s generally people telling mums who are floored and getting no appreciation for doing it all with no help? Or aunts who have ungrateful relatives or something? Or people who have everyone telling them their dog isn’t a good dog etc?!

This has been annoying me for a while. People describe a completely normal everyday situation and someone says they sound amazing. 😀 Bloody ridiculous

At the risk of sounding a complete curmudgeon, yes I agree with this.

Although - IMO the ones I really notice it tends to be those threads where the mum has come on to post that something has gone wrong - e.g. "my baby fell off the couch, I'm the worst mum ALIVE" and there's a flurry of "you sound like a great mum hun". I mean, I'm sure most kids fall off the couch at one point in their life, but it's neither an indicator of being a good mum nor a bad mum.

What's wrong with being kind to others.. strange post 😂

I agree. I have come across it and also think it is a bit weird and also uninformed, they don’t know the OP at all yet make a very sweeping statement. The only thing more annoying is the old “you sound very mean/ bitter/ you don’t come across well” when people are describing upsetting scenarios mainly based on preconceived stereotypes. Ie a stepmom having the tiniest gripe about the step kids however badly behaved “you don’t like them very much” or a woman having gripe with a man “he’s clearly abusive” whatever the scenario. It does get tiring to read these comments who don’t even try to understand the nuances of a situation and just Barrel in with their comments

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A well meaning acknowledgement that in your opinion someone is doing something well isn't patronising or offensive to most people. And if it is to some, well, that's a shame, but the benefit to those who do like it outweighs the risk others may not as far as im concerned. If someone posts their story on a public forum inviting comments, opinions will come thick and fast. And the complimentary ones will be the least of their worries.