Every single thing I say my partner gets annoyed at and I'm wrong and I need humbled

[pij]

The conversation starts out nice and fine and we connect but then he will randomly say I over generalise things and piss him off so much. What I said was that (after he told me at 28 I'm getting passed it) people look their best 25+ like at 18 everyone looks a bit awkward and like they need to grow into themselves. This pissed him off so much for what reason? I feel I looked goofy at 18 (when we got together) and have grown into myself. As have my friends and even celebrities you say. This is also MY opinion so why would it be "over generalising and so wrong"?

Then he said I need humbling when I joked in a conversation in the hot sibling. So obviously a joke. He does this all the time. He thinks I need humbling I'm too aware I'm "attractive" I need brought down a peg.

Why would he want to make every conversation awful between us? I've never had a conversation where I'm constantly wrong, he gets pissed off at my opinion, I'm stupid and don't know anything. It's like he made it so we don't get on just for the fun of it because we can have amazing conversations where we connect and it feels so good and nice. Then like tonight my thoughts are so wrong etc.

I cannot stand the me saying a thought and it's wrong

It's got me to the point I think I offend everyone with anything I say like saying I think people look their best 25 onwards. How is that possibly offensive??? How is that wrong. Or everything I say in conversations is so wrong and everyone will be mad at me for speaking. Because he's now mad at me and gone off because I said people look their best 25 onwards??

This isn't even making sense

Fully agree with this!

No one should speak to you like that. Don’t put up with it. Time to end the relationship. You know it’s wrong or you wouldn’t be on here. Good luck. But get out soon.

You’d be extremely stupid not to dump this nasty man

she needs male validation so badly she's willing to comprise herself

Read that again. That's what you're doing. Staying with an awful man who calls you stupid and runs you down all the time. Run away!

OP, please do what everyone here tells you, as every sane adult would tell you — get away from him.

Don’t be the long-suffering victim who’s on here, in 10 years time with three traumatised children, pleading for help with her violent partner.

Get away from this man. As others have said he knows he is punching above his weight with you and he is trying to bring you down so that he can feel superior.

He does not love you.

Who cares why he does it? The question is, why are you willing to put up with it, and over a period of years?

YOU DESERVE BETTER.
And that includes being single. It will be hard, but you need to leave him. He’s likely to try to hang into you even harder so you’ll need to be strong. Have a look at doing the Freedom program, it will help you see what’s going on.

He’s doing it deliberately to undermine your confidence. Or he finds you intensely annoying.

Either way, bin him.

End the relationship. It must be obvious to you that it’s a shit show OP. There’s nothing else to say - get away from him.

He's not a nice person. Your relationship is toxic. Leave.

Learn about boundaries, acceptable behaviour and healthy relationships.

Then find a man who doesn't need to put you down to make him feel good about himself.

You should feel supported and cherished by your partner. Do you?

What are his good points as I am failing to see them.

As you were young when you got together you probably can’t imagine being without him, but he is being abusive and you need to leave him

How can you not see you are doing the exact same thing as this woman?

You are subjecting yourself to a vile misogynist. Get out now.

Ah yes Violence! That's going to make the world a better place.

@pij Anyway, OP, you can see another woman's situation for what it is but you can't seem to see yours otherwise you would have left by now. You do sound like you're aware and enjoy being attractive but that shouldn't piss off someone you're in a relationship with nor make him say "you need humbling". That's really fucked up!

He seems to want to "humble" you at any point so that you can depend on him, the MAN, for validation, affirmation, love, self esteem. He doesn't want you to have any of that on your own because it makes him feel like he has nothing to offer you emotionally.

You need to leave this abuser and disaster of a relationship before it gets worse. He hates you but is used to you, that's why he stays.

He’s an abusive dick who is negging you to lower your self esteem. You can never be happy with this man. Leave him. That’s really all there is to it.

I’d never ever ever be with a man that called me stupid. Ever.

Look at what he is doing to you. He is making you feel stupid. How many years has he drummed this in to you?

He sounds an absolute cunt. For gods sake bin him.

Hes saying these things to keep you in line. It’s deliberate manipulation designed to make you feel bad about yourself so that you’ll ever leave.

Please throw this one back. He's not a nice man at all.

It doesn't matter what other qualities he has. He could be amazing in every other way. This one issue you've described makes him completely unfit to be in relationship.

I'd personally ditch him immediately. But if he is otherwise a really really good partner and there's the possibility he doesn't realise what he's doing, you could give him one chance to change if you want to. Write it down so he can't argue with you and stop you getting it all out, and present him with what you've written. You need to say you need him to change completely and permanently. Suggest therapy if he doesn't think he can change alone.
I'd give him one week. If he hasn't stopped I'd end it immediately and never look back.

If you stay with him OP you will never know true love and partnership. Do you want a life like that?

The last sentence of your OP is This isn't even making sense.
Of course it fucking isn't! His Point of View does not contain any.

I hope you find a nice Christmas with other people or by yourself.

Oh goodness you are still so young. Don't waste the best years of your life on someone who thinks so little of you.

I'm in my 50s and no oil painting, but my late 20s was definitely my peak as it was the time I did get attention. Get out there OP. Why are you with this nasty bastard when you could do so much better?

Why on earth are you spending another minute with this man. Chuck him. No misogynistic plonker deserves a woman in his life.

Please get away from this insecure, controlling child of a man.

He has you thinking you are worthless and doubting yourself. You are not and should not.

Please do yourself a favour and waste no more of your time or your self esteem on him.

STOP trying to justify yourself or understand his behaviour.

You do not need to adjust your opinions to please someone else. You are entitled to hold opinions he may not agree with and that's OK.

He sounds like he thinks you're out of his league and he's determined to destroy your confidence and self esteem so that you don't think you can do better.

You are not responsible for his insecurity and you cannot fix it for him. You are not obliged to donate your self esteem to a lost cause.

If you stay with him he will make you miserable. Leave him whilst you still have some self worth.

Any man who says you need humbling is telling you he intends to crush you.