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ReallyStuck2024 · 10/12/2024 16:14

Posting for traffic.

I live in SE England. I’m trying to move to a cheaper part of the UK and I’m making plans to do so.

I work FT and have an additional PT job. I’m working around 55-60 hours a week.

No savings, can’t get a decent credit card or even a loan due to previous poor credit (which I’m working to resolve).I’m not entitled to any benefits.
I don’t drive so can’t take on work as for eg Deliveroo or Amazon or otherwise

Family can’t help me with financial support. I also cannot stay with family in the short term due to valid but complicated reasons.

the situation is: it’s going to cost me thousands to move: in terms of arranging a move but also because my current flat is furnished and I’d have to furnish an entire new house. So I need to save for six months or so.

whilst this is all going on, my LL announced he was putting the rent up by £450 a month, effective March. I can’t afford this and will need to move. But I can’t afford to move.

I am wracking my head for solutions here - even moving into a house share and getting rid of most of my belongings but that still wouldn’t work because I’d need a months rent and deposit up front and tbh, house shares and one bed flats aren’t that different in price where I’m looking.

What on earth am I meant to do? I’m seriously panicking

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NameChanged9 · 15/12/2024 12:12

ReallyStuck2024 · 11/12/2024 18:16

I have looked and there’s a number of grants I am eligible for!

That’s great news!
I hope you are applying and hopefully successful with some.
Have you checked Turn 2 Us Grant Search (separate from their benefits search tool)?

Turn2us Grants Search

Use the Turn2us Grants Search to find out which grants you may be eligible for.

https://grants-search.turn2us.org.uk/?_gl=1*cf7or9*_ga*MTE0NzgxMjkyMC4xNzE4NzA4Njc2*_ga_E1WBSX9YR8*MTczMzgyNDk1MS42NzQuMS4xNzMzODI1NTE2LjAuMC4w&_ga=2.203909584.1782402900.1733732365-1147812920.1718708676

Bowies · 15/12/2024 13:51

If you kept the place spotless, you should take photographs as evidence of how you are leaving it, same if you can clean the oven yourself to a professional standard, what’s the difference?

When I moved to an unfurnished place, I literally got the mattress then later the bed. I didn’t have sofa, wardrobe to start with.

Can you sell stuff like clothes, donate books? Will be less to haul around the country and store.

You can also buy from local furniture charity shops or get a sofa from freecycle for example.

Susan146 · 15/12/2024 18:47

Get in touch with Shelter. They will help with your current situation, but also will suggest ways of getting help to move. Do you have any relatives in the area you want to move too? You can apply for council accommodation as an assistant to said relatives in that area. Hope that helps.

ReallyStuck2024 · 26/09/2025 15:43

Resurrecting this with an update.
Things worked out for me. Although my landlord did put the rent up, the other tenants and I negotiated for a smaller increase. I was able to- just - to afford that and to put some money aside each month which meant that two weeks ago, I moved. I now live in Devon close to my support network. The move was extremely difficult and an experience I’d like to forget but I am here, and already things are better. Thank you to everyone for your advice and support - I wouldn’t have made it here without it.

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RandomMess · 26/09/2025 16:33

I’m so glad you have managed to move. Be proud of what you have achieved!

Purplebunnie · 26/09/2025 16:35

So glad to hear you finally made your escape and that things are better for you even if it was a difficult move..

Wishing you luck and hope you find a better paying job with a hopefully more considerate employer

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