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Original poster

To have realised I’ll never have a peaceful morning again …

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neverever24 · 10/12/2024 07:49

Well, I will - but probably not for the best part of fifteen years.

Two young kids, obviously they are a lot of work. Older one was a 530 riser for a long time, hated that. But I’ve realised those lovely sleepy weekend mornings where you stay in bed or get up but do not much are gone for the forseeable.

DH does get them (sort of) as he works away quite regularly. I know he’s still working but no stress of getting children up. Just him, shower in peace. He does have them one weekend morning but they are so noisy it’s not much peace !

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Spagettifunctional · 10/12/2024 07:50

Once your kids get to about 7 or 8 they will be quiet in the morning

mine are 10 and 11 and I get a decent lie in (not that I don’t tend to sleep late these days)

NunyaBeeswax · 10/12/2024 07:54

My daughter is approaching 12 and rarely gets up at the weekends before 10am.
I think it depends on the kid tbh. She's never been an early riser really thankfully.

Do yeah. Let em stay up late Friday and Saturday and don't wake them on a Saturday or Sunday morning, give that a try and if that fails, lock em in the shed. 👍🏻👍🏻

IhateHPSDeaneCnt · 10/12/2024 08:13

My mum did sweet FA - just stayed in bed; yelling for her artisan tea. Not recommending this as parenting.

EasyComfortDishes · 10/12/2024 08:15

In January book yourself a night away in a nice local town. Go in just before lunch, have a nice lunch and a mooch, check in to hotel for a nap, have a nice solo dinner or pizza and wine in the room, and have a lie in! You can do this at a premier inn, it doesn’t have to be expensive.
I used to do this a few times a year when I had small ones. We do get to sleep a bit later now but there’s always the activities to get to! Everything was called off this Sunday and it was bliss! And my youngest is 8. So the days are approaching.

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neverever24 · 10/12/2024 08:18

It does sound nice but beyond budget at the moment unfortunately!

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Invisablepanic · 10/12/2024 08:19

On weekends mine get themselves up, have breakfast and watch some TV on their own, 7, 11 and 13 - been doing it for a few years though. They bicker a lot during the day but they are chill in the mornings and help the youngest so you might have a lot less than 15 years to wait.

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neverever24 · 10/12/2024 08:20

Fingers crossed! Mornings are so stressful at the moment.

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AlbertCamusflage · 10/12/2024 08:20

It really won't be all that long before they are old enough to slum around doing their own thing quietly in the morning. And you will treasure the resulting lie-ins so much that it will almost have been worth the wait.

CaptainCabinetsTrappedInCabinets · 10/12/2024 08:22

Husband needs to take them out on your lie in day! How selfish of him to let them just run riot and wake you

Saschka · 10/12/2024 08:22

It does improve. Mine is 7 and even if he wakes up at 6 am at the weekend, he’s quite capable of going downstairs and switching the tv on by himself. And I don’t know any teenagers who wake before 9am on a weekend through choice.

Nannyfannybanny · 10/12/2024 08:23

How old are they?

NobleWashedLinen · 10/12/2024 08:23

I remember it's tough but lazy weekend mornings come back sooner than 15 years. By the time yoir youngest is around 8-10 they'll be capable of going downsrairs quietly, getting their own breakfast and switching on CBBC with appropriate bribery in place for what they need to do in order to let mummy have a bit more sleep. Not long after that they get to the point when you are trying to persuade an inert lump under the duvet that 11am really does meam that the day has to start. Time flies.

WingBingo · 10/12/2024 08:23

They do return! Mine are 9&11 and they stay in their rooms or head downstairs, entertaining themselves

in often don’t wake up until 9 on the weekends

Marblesbackagain · 10/12/2024 08:23

Why aren't you getting lie ins at the weekends when their father is there?

Step back you can't draw from an empty well.

SulkySeagull · 10/12/2024 08:24

Mine are 8 and get themselves up in the morning, watch TV and make themselves some brekkie. And they can use the nespresso machine so sometimes make me a coffee in bed!

walkdlg · 10/12/2024 08:25

That's a DH issue not a kid one, when I was BF DH did the mornings, when we shared the night issues we split the weekend mornings, and we both could manage the children to ensure the other wasn't disturbed, and then the kids got to an age they could wake up independently quietly long before 15 years. I've been sleeping in on weekends still for years (mine are 14 and 11). You need to talk to your DH.

HelloMyNameIsElderSmurf · 10/12/2024 08:29

Well they do come back, and sooner than you think. My early bird started to sleep in pretty much as soon as he started school.

But then, my DH and I always used to take the weekend mornings in turn - why are you not getting a lie in??

Jackiepumpkinhead · 10/12/2024 08:31

Did you not realise this when you first decided to have children?

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 10/12/2024 08:32

You may find that after years of training you will become unable to sleep in any more! Mine are teens and I get up way before them at the weekend!

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neverever24 · 10/12/2024 08:34

CaptainCabinetsTrappedInCabinets · 10/12/2024 08:22

Husband needs to take them out on your lie in day! How selfish of him to let them just run riot and wake you

If they wake at half six where’s he supposed to take them though? I wouldn’t be going anywhere at that time!

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neverever24 · 10/12/2024 08:35

Jackiepumpkinhead · 10/12/2024 08:31

Did you not realise this when you first decided to have children?

I wake early so did t think it would be a big deal 😂 I didn’t expect the endless talking shouting, crying and squabbling …

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ThatsNotMyTeen · 10/12/2024 08:36

Jackiepumpkinhead · 10/12/2024 08:31

Did you not realise this when you first decided to have children?

Helpful.

OP it is relentless when they are small but it gets easier as they grow up, and doesn’t take til they are 15 either. There will come a point they can get themselves up and brekkie on a weekend and won’t scream and make a racket either. In the meantime invest in some earplugs for your lie in

Edenmum2 · 10/12/2024 08:39

Shut the door and get earplugs for the morning he does have them, or ask him to take them out. My DH does weekend mornings and it may be 90% of the reason our marriage is surviving

Marblesbackagain · 10/12/2024 08:41

neverever24 · 10/12/2024 08:34

If they wake at half six where’s he supposed to take them though? I wouldn’t be going anywhere at that time!

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Let him figure it out. Our local swimming pool opens at 7. I am sure he can figure something out.

CaptainCabinetsTrappedInCabinets · 10/12/2024 08:41

neverever24 · 10/12/2024 08:34

If they wake at half six where’s he supposed to take them though? I wouldn’t be going anywhere at that time!

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Wrapped up and out for a walk. Take torches. Kids love it.

Alternatively he needs to engage with them, shut all connecting doors and keep them occupied and quiet.