Myself and my husband have been together 8 years. I have a 12 year old daughter with my first husband.
My first marriage ended when my daughter was 3 due to physical and emotional abuse. My daughter's dad doesn't pay maintenance and hasn't seen my daughter in 5 years.
I met my currant husband when my daughter was 4 and a half, he moved in in 2020 and my daughters dad doesn't started calling him dad, this wasn't instigated by either myself or my new husband. It was her idea.
We got married this year and now we would all like my husband to adopt my daughter. This comes from my daughter and both myself and my husband would like this. I'd like the security of knowing if something happened to me my daughter would be taken care of by someone who loves her, who she loves and would be able to stay in her home and not be disrupted at what would already be a traumatic time.
My ex husband wouldn't be agreeable to this. I don't know if I am being truly unreasonable and out of order and what my next steps need to be.